Who's In Your Relationship ?

With each person that you are in a romantic relationship with you are not only in a relationship with that person, but the village that they hold counsel with about almost every issue in your relationship, just as you have a village that you hold counsel with. When we are in a relationship we forget this very important fact. Although you can have a wonderful relationship with the Village , the Village shouldn’t have an opinion about everything.

What any person in a relationship should remember is that they have chosen to be in a relationship, to share their emotions, and have an experience with another person, and an intimate or romantic relationship is between the two people that are in it.

It is unfortunate that in addition to people not always showing up in the relationship as themselves many people are guilty of bringing the village along.  The village will give their opinion on everything from how long you should date, when you should have sex, to when you should get married, and have children. They will tell you things that come from their own negative and hurt feelings about relationships.  But, the truth is none of that is the villages business.  A romantic relationship is between two people, not two people and the village.

We all get confused because there is no real handbook or road map on how to be in a relationship, and you may not have had any good example to learn from. You will make mistakes along the way, but you can only learn what is right for you and your partner by doing.  So, when There is a problem you don’t run.  As they say “when you fall off the horse you have to get back on”.  What that means is you go back to your partner and work thought whatever your issues are together not with the village. Because no matter how good someone else’s intentions may be no one should ever have an opinion about your relationship. They can only project from their own experience, which may not be anything like yours.  Which if you follow their advice nine time out of ten you will end up with a bigger mess in your relationship than you started out with.

So, in your relationship remember that you are in it with that person not the village, and that the person you are with is not the same as anyone you have been with before. They are an individual who has chosen to be in a romantic relationship with you, and they deserve to be treated as such.  So, tell the village that the drawbridge is up, and what goes on in The Castle stays in The Castle.

Who is in your relationship?

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

 

Song of the day: “Ain't Nobody's Business If I Do” -     Billie Holiday

 

www.StacyeBranche.com