The thing about relationships is that we all only know what we have seen and later experience. There is no really handbook and each of us goes about our relationships differently. We all have different needs, wants, and experiences and for that reason we each have different needs from our relationships and it is important to find the person who will not only love you but understand your needs.
The first step to finding and having the relationship you want is to be honest with yourself about who you are, what you want, and what you need. Many people whether intentionally or unintentionally play games and skate around the truth. Never really admitting to themselves or to the other person what they really want from the relationship. People go into relationships for any number of reasons and sometimes not the right ones believing that somewhere down the line they will be able to mold the relationship and the other person into one that works for them. The truth is that is never going to happen all you will end up with is two frustrated people.
Who you are, your likes and dislikes are the first things that you need to be aware of before entering any relationship. Next you need to be clear on the type of relationship you choose to be in. This means understanding that if all you want to do is causally date or just have an occasional booty call, than you shouldn't get into a relationship with someone that is hell bent on getting married and vice versa. You can’t fear loneliness and want a relationship so bad that you will settle to not be alone. You will only be wasting valuable time and blocking the truly amazing relationship from coming into your life.
How you start a relationship will determine the kind of relationship you will have. A lot of people think that they can make another person be what they want them to be or do what they want them to do, but really would you want some trying to change you? If you are not honest in the beginning you will have more challenges than good times and find yourself trying to fix something that is not fixable. Unfixable because it was never broken it was someone trying to fit a circle in a square peg.
We will always meet people that we are attracted to, but that doesn’t mean that we have to act on every attraction. Sometimes it is nice to have a fantasy and keep it moving.
Are you or have you been honest when you enter relationships?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of the day: “The Right Kinda Lover” - Patti La Belle
CD of the day: “ Gems” -Patti LaBelle