Many times we can’t understand the reaction of a partners or friend behavior to something that we have said or done. We think that they are over reacting or being too sensitive. We never take in to account where these emotions might be coming from. They are coming from wounds from the past that haven’t healed.
We all have a backstory and emotional baggage, and any many times those wounds from the past whether from our childhood or our past relationships have not been address and continue to affect us in the present. This baggage when not address has a way of getting in the way of our happiness in the present, and if not dealt with, our happiness in the future.
Many times because of our lack of understanding or lack of compassion we miss out on great relationships and opportunities because someone’s baggage is so obvious that is scares us, but what we forget is that we have our own emotional baggage. The sad thing is that many times instead of trying to understand what is going on with someone we catch the first train out of Dodge.
Most people don’t realize how much of their past they carry with them and how it affects every area of their life if not addressed. To help someone that we care about to move forward it can sometimes be as simple as pointing something out to them, or nurturing them through the situation, to turn what looked like a hopeless situation in to a situation full of hope. That is not to say that you have to fix everyone you meet. Some situations might require much more work and time than you want to put in or are capable of putting in.
We all have a history, which is why it’s so important to be honest about who you are when going into a relationship of any kind, and to be with someone that you are able to talk to even about those things that are painful. The better we know our partners and they know us the easier it is to not be offended or hurt by the things that the other might say or do, but to work towards healing old wounds instead of reopening them.
Are you working on and healing your wounds from the past so that you can have an amazing present as well as future?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “In Too Deep”- Jon B.
CD: Helpless Romantic