There are times when a partner or friend will do or say something that hurts our feelings. The other person may not look at their words or actions as something hurtful, and the truth is, it may not have been. Those feelings of hurt that a person may be feeling may have more to do with their past, than their present. What many people never take into account when these situations occur is where these emotions might be coming from. They are coming from wounds from the past that hasn’t healed.
We all have a backstory and emotional baggage that we carry and hold onto from our past. Many times those wounds from the past, whether from our childhood or our past relationships, have not been addressed and continue to affect us in the present. This baggage, when not addressed has a way of getting in the way of our happiness in the present, and if not dealt with, our happiness in the future.
Most people don’t realize how much of their past they carry with them and how it affects every area of their life if not addressed. To help someone that we care about to move forward it can sometimes be as simple as pointing something out to them, or nurturing them through a situation, and to help them to turn what looked like a hopeless situation into a situation hope. This is not to say that you have to fix everyone you meet. Some situations might require much more time and work then a person wants to put in or is capable of putting in. But, it’s important to keep the other persons backstory in mind to prevent further misunderstandings.
We all have a history, which is why it’s so important, to be honest about who you are when going into a relationship of any kind, and to be with someone that you can able to talk to even about those things that are painful. The better you know your partner and they know you, the easier it is not to be offended or hurt by the things that the other might say or do but to work towards healing old wounds instead of reopening them.
Are you working on and healing your wounds from the past so that you can have an amazing present as well as future?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “In Too Deep”- Jon B.
CD: Helpless Romantic