The hardest thing for most people to do is to change the dynamics of a relationship.
We can use all kinds of excuses for why we continue a romantic relationship that we know we should end, but the only real answer is fear. The fear of being alone, the fear that your financial situation will change, the fear that the other person can’t handle it, or the fear that they will no longer be in your life if the dynamics change.
The mistake that most of us make is that we go into our relationships romantic and platonic alike treating the relationship more like a procession, than relationships. We implement all of these rules and restrictions of how we think things should be in stead of and in some cases never really cultivating true friendships. It’s all or nothing. The sad thing is because of this all of nothing attitude people miss out on wonderful relationships.
Unfortunately many of us have been programmed to believe that if we are no longer going to be romantic with someone, than we can no longer be in each other’s lives, or worst we believe we have to be enemies. This belief is far from true. First of all you can never have a real romance if there was never a friendship. If there is true friendship in any relationship, time, distance, nor circumstances should be able to disrupt your friendship. If your relationship was romantic you should be able to remain friends whether you are still romantically involved or not. The ruth is some people make better friends than they do lovers.
If two people really care about each other they should be able to have honest conversations with each other about their wants, needs, and desires, and there is no need to be fearful. That is what a real friendship is, and if two people really care about each other just because the romance is over doesn’t mean they can’t be friends it only means that the dynamics have changed.
Are you missing out on some friendships???
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “ That’s What Friends Are For” – Deniece Williams
CD: This Is Niecy