The cheating that can go on in relationships is always a touchy subject, but it’s the one topic that you can’t just look at your partner, but you must also look at yourself. What you have to remember is that both parties are responsible when one or both cheats in the relationship.
People for whatever the reason seem to feel that once you’re in a relationship you no longer have to work at the relationship, or that once you are in a committed relationship the other person should just take you as you are, or whatever you morph into. That to some degree is true, but if you’re not working at your relationship, not being kind and considerate, you let yourself go, or your are always nagging your partner, what would make you think that your partner isn’t going to look outside of the relationship for a little bit of happiness?
Nobody ever just cheats. There is always more to it. It could be the other persons lack of self confidence, it could be feelings of neglect, and it could be that they woke up one day and realized that they were somewhere that they really should be. Whatever the reason trying to find what it is that they think they need or will make them happy.
You see it’s not about being mad, it’s not about being hurt, it’s not about feeling like you have failed, but what it is about communication. The two of you need to see if you can figure out what the problem is. You need to figure out if the problem is something that can be worked out or if it is time to move on.
Here’s the thing, if you can work things out you might have a better relationship than you started out with, but working it out is going to start with communication, understanding, and forgiveness. It will mean addressing the situations that need addressing, and moving on.
If it’s time to move on you have to realize that moving on isn’t always a bad thing. You might be moving away from a situation that you shouldn’t have been in, in the first place, or maybe your have outgrown each other and you are moving in different directions, but whatever it is you need to graciously move forward and wish each other well. Don’t be mad, don’t hold a grudge, wish The other person well, and move on to what is for you.
Are you taking care of your relationship?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye Branché
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