I always find it funny how we don't want to say something to someone because we don't want to hurt his or her feelings especially in relationships or the possibility of a relationship. Sometimes the truth can hurt, but it really is in how you say what is true and in how the truth is received.
It's like when I hear someone say "I wanted to tell him or her that I wasn't interested so I just didn't call” or "I didn’t say something because I didn't want to be mean" or worse “I am avoiding him or her because I don’t want to do whatever”. It would have been much kinder to just have been honest with them in the first place, than to use the lie of avoidance like avoidance is going to hurt their feeling less. At the end of the day yes the other person got the message by our action or lack there of, but it doesn’t hurt their feelings any less.
I think the avoidance can actually be more hurtful because the other person involved doesn’t know what exactly has happened. Let’s be honest when we avoid we think that we are making it on the other person , but really we are just trying to make things easier for ourselves. The truth is, we’re not really. When we avoid any situation lies usually get thrown in the mix. In turn we make things more complicated than they need to be.
When we’re upfront and honest we avoid confusion. At least being upfront and honest there is a chance to move forward peacefully whatever forward may be without muddied watered.
It's not always easy to tell the truth, and yes sometimes feeling get hurt. The thing is whether you are honest up front or you choose avoidance feeling will be hurt, but at least in telling the truth feeling won't be hurt as bad.
Love and blessings in divine order, Stacye
From the book “It’s All In How You Look at It (thought and questions about life)
Song of the day: "If Your Heart Isn't In It" - Atlantic Star
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