It's Not Complicated

Many times we think that because we’re in relationship and the relationship is not as we wish for it to be we label it as complicated. What you have to remember is that you are either in a relationship, or you’re not. There is no in between. It may not be the relationship that you started out to be in, or maybe it’s moving along at the pace slower than you would like, but again you’re in a relationship or you’re not. 

If you’re in a relationship and it’s not what you want it to be, then you have to figure out if it’s where you want to stay, and if so how you can make it the relationship that you want it to be. If it’s not where you want to be, than you need to figure out how to move yourself out of the relationship, and move towards having the relationship that you want to be in.

We sit on the fence because we are afraid. We are afraid of getting hurt, we are afraid that someone doesn’t want or love us as much as we want and love them. We say the relationship is complicated because we are afraid that things won’t work out, so we leave ourself this pretend space of availability. But, what you are really doing is setting yourself up for failure.

Like anything that we truly wish to be successful at a relationship requires commitment. You cannot sit on the fence, you cannot wonder, you have to commit. If the relationship is what you want, than you have to commit until you no longer wish to be with that person, and no longer wish to commit to the relationship.

So, the next time you go to describe your relationship think about this. You are in a relationship or you are not. It’s not complicated. If you are planning to end the relationship, separated or getting divorced you are still in a relationship and you’re in it until you are not. If there is a relationship that you are working at or trying to be in you are either in it or you are not. You can't sit on the fence waiting on the what if, and waiting to see how it turns out. You have to commit to the relationship. Because once you commit, then you will be in the relationship, and be moving closer to the type of relationship you want, but as long as you treat the relationship like you are not in it then you won’t be.

Love and blessings in divine order,


Song of the day: “Love” Musiq Soulchild

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