We all have people in our lives that are in someway hurting themselves. We talk and talk yet our words fall on deaf ears. The thing that we have to remember is that we each have our own journey that we must travel, our own emotions that we must experience, and our own pain that we must handle.
It’s not always possible to know the demons that haunt a persons mind, or the demons that push someone to self-destructive behavior such as the over indulgence in drugs and alcohol. As a caring and loving friend or family member it’s our desire to help that person get the help they need, and to heal. But, sometimes no matter what we do it isn’t possible to help them, and their self-destruction becomes a destructive force not only in there own life, but in the lives of everyone around them.
As much as you can love and care for another person there comes a point when you must realize that it’s time to let them walk their walk in the way they choose to walk it, even if it’s a walk you don’t agree with or understand. Sometimes what we consider help does more harm than good. Many times a person knowing they will always have a safely blanket won’t put in the work they need to, and for some regardless of our help they must lose everything to want to get better.
If you have reached the point where you feel there is nothing more you can do the best thing you can do is to give yourselves permission to let go, and not feel guilty for letting go because someone else’s self destruction has become a destructive force not only their life, but in yours. The walk away is not cruel it is self-preservation and possibly the best gift that you can give them as well as to yourself.
Do you know when and how to let go?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye