Love Loss and Love Again

Some years ago I was in a relationship. I was very much in love. The gentleman’s life was cut short by an act of nature. On his birthday, I always take a moment to reflect and in my own way spend a bit of his birthday with him to let him know I love and miss him. He still has a special place in my heart, and he always will. 

Many years have passed since the day of his transition, but he is still very much a part of who I am. At the time, I couldn’t imagine how I could go on without him. I couldn’t imagine that I would. Over time, my wounded heart has healed, and I have continued living, and I have had the honor to love again. 

I believe if you have ever really loved someone, then you don’t stop loving them; period. I understand that everyone that has been in your life whether you consider it a good or maybe not so good relationship has had a part in who you have become. You not only learned more about your wants and needs from a relationship, but you learn how to love deeper.

I know that some people wonder do I expect other men to measure up to the man I lost? The answer is No, not even for one minute. Because I know that we are all individuals. You can never love two people the same way. Each relationship brings its own joys, challenges, and lessons. 

What I did learn from being in that relationship was what love feels like, and that I would never settle for a relationship that didn’t make me feel good, bring me joy, make me laugh, or feel appreciated. And, I would not be in a relationship with someone that I could not make feel the same. 

What have you learned from your past loves?

Love and blessings in divine order, 


Song of the day: “Never Knew Love Like This” - Alexander O'Neal