Moving Past The Pain

When a relationship has ended it is very similar to a death, and in many ways it is. You haveloss something and someone that was important you. A person that you care about is no longer in your life. Like any loss, you will continue on with your life, and each day the pain will seem to hurt less and less, but in the immediate you hurt.

Through each of our lives, we will experience the loss a loved one either physically, emotionally or both. The hardest task for most is to figure out what to do next, and how to not hurt. Like anything else in life, you have to find and give gratitude for the good things and the lessons that came from the relationship as well as the loss of the relationship. 

There are many reasons a relationship can end. No one has to be right or wrong, but when you can look back on the relationship honestly it will make all the difference in the world on how you move past the hurt. Sometimes it is hard for us to see through the pain that a relationship wasn’t good for us, was holding us back from being our best self, or that it wasn’t the best thing for either party. When you can look at the relationship as it really was not the fantasy you painted in your imagination you’ll find the grieving period will be much shorter. Many times we are holding onto the fantasy of what we hoped would be, and we allow that fantasy to get in the way of our healing. 

There is no right or wrong amount of time to grieve a loss of any kind. The end of a relationship is in it’s own way a death and the mistake that most of us make is that we don’t allow ourselves time to grieve. At the end of anything that is important to you, you have to allow yourself time to grieve. But, unlike a death, you cannot continue to only see the good in the relationship and not acknowledge the things that were unpleasant in the relationship. Continuing to do that will prolong the pain and never allow you to move forward. Just as you are allowing yourself time to grieve you have to allow yourself time to adjust to the changes in your life, where you are in the present and where you want to go in the future. 


Love and blessings in divine order, 



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