Most people have their fantasy of what the think their ideal mate should look like, act like, smell like, and taste like, but sometimes we are so busy looking for our idea of perfection that we miss out on true gifts. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want or might think that you want in a mate. But, you have to be careful to not allow what you think is right for you to get in the way of what might be for your highest good.
For most people their fantasy consist mainly of the visual, and that is all great for the short term or one night stand, but when you are dealing with having a real relationship the fantasy should be much deeper than that. How someone looks, the kind of job someone has or how much money they make, these are things can help, but looks and money can be taken away in an instance. The true fantasy or desire should be to have someone in your life that loves and cares about you, someone that treats you well, someone who is thoughtful of your feelings, and someone that you genuinely share interest and values with.
Two people can meet and really hit is off, but one or both can allow something small to get in the way of how wonderful the other person might be. They move on in their life continuing to be attracted to the superficialwondering why they feel empty and can’t find a true connection.
It’s great if our fantasy shows up being everything that we need and want in our life, but if you are still in search of your fantasy or your fantasy has turned out to be a nightmare it might be time to start looking deeper than the surface.
Are you able to dig down deep or are you stuck in the superficial?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “Dreamin” - Vaneesa Williams
From the book “It’s All In How You Look at It (thought and questions about love and relationships)”