We all have qualities that we desire in a partner whether we have thought about them or not. Those qualities that we need want, and even don’t want in a relationship, and from a partner. In many cases because most people don’t think about the qualities that matter to them. Instead, they end up in unhappy relationships. They end up in situations where they are constantly trying to change the person they’re in a relationship with to change to be more like what they think desire. It’s unfair to go into a relationship wanting someone to be different to make you happy, and vice versa.
Whether you are in a relationship or not everyone should be clear about not only what they desire in their life, but what they need, want, and don’t want from a relationship. The root of most relationship problems stems from a person not knowing themselves, and what they truly need from their relationship.
So, I challenge you to make your list not only of your needs and wants, but what you don’t want as well. If you’re in a relationship, you may realize that you are with just the right person, and have a greater level of appreciation for your partner and the relationship, or you might find that you aren’t with the right person. But, at least you will be clear and know how to better proceed. If you are single with this list you will be better equipped to know who is and isn’t right for you, and maybe able to see and appreciate someone who might already be standing in front of your face.
Have you thought about what you need, want, and don’t want?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “Everything I Need” - Daniel
From the book “It’s All In How You Look at It (thought and questions about love and relationships)”