Hard as we may try we each are guilty of wearing rose-colored glasses where someone in our life is concerned. There maybe signs, or hint’s that something isn’t quite right, and yet we allow the beauty of who we want someone to be to cloud our judgment and how we deal with them.
It’s very easy for us to want someone to be what we want them to be. This usually comes from something lacking in our own life, and we look to this person to fulfill a desire that we have. Because, of our desire to have our storybook relationship or what we think is the right relationship we choose not to see someone for who they really are. It’s usually in romantic relationships that we put our rose-colored glasses on the most. We will turn a blind eye to something even though there are red flags popping up all around us.
The thing is that no matter who we want someone to be, we can’t just make them that –no matter how hard we try. Being in the right relationship is possible, but many times people are far too inpatient to wait for what is truly right for them. Instead they will try to force the situation they’re in to be the situation they think it should be, even when they know it may not be the right for them.
Many times we will tell ourselves all kinds of lies to make our story sound like the greatest love story ever told. When in actuality by putting on our roses-colored glasses it could be setting the stage for our worst nightmare. We try to convince ourself that if we love someone enough they will become what we want, and that if we believe in our dream enough that our fairytale can come true.
It’s always important to see people for who they really are, as well as what they are and are not capable of doing to and for you. When you can see people as they really are, you are rarely disappointed and less likely to have your feelings hurt. You can never want a relationship so badly that you sacrifice your happiness trying to achieve it. Because, realizing that the toad is really just a toad, and not a prince or princess waiting to be kissed is always far more painful and harder to get over, than if you had just waited patiently for who was right for you.
Are you seeing things clearly or wearing rose-coloredglasses?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: Rose-Colored Glasses - Kelly Rowland
From the book “It’s All In How You Look at It (thought and questions about love and relationships)”