There are people whether knowingly or unknowingly who allow their unpleasant relationships from the past to play a big part in their decision-making process of how they meet new people, establish relationships, and how they conduct themselves in relationships. They deny themselves true happiness and make others suffer because of the actions of someone from their past.
Many times people don’t look at both sides of a situation, or they move on from a relationship without finding forgiveness and healing their wounds. What they don’t realize is that they are beginning to build a wall that with every relationship attempt continues to grow. Without doing a little work on themselves, and attempting to heal the wounds from their past, the wall will not go away by itself. They wake up one day, and no matter how much they have going for themselves, they become the last person in the room that anyone wants to get to know.
There are two big mistakes that many people make in their relationships. The first is that they forget that it takes two to tango. You not only have to acknowledge your part in the success of a relationship but also in it’s failure. The second mistake people make is not acknowledging what they’ve gained from being in the relationship. You have to find the lesson and the blessings from the experience, to not only move past the experience but so that you can grow from the experience. Because, for you to have different and better, you have to show up different and better.
If trust is an issue for you, and you find that you are seeing a displeasing pattern in your relationships, it might be time to take a long hard look at your behavior in your relationships. Instead of placing blame–take some responsibility. You need to figure out what is it in you that is attracting the same kind of person, or what is it that you might be doing that is bringing unpleasant qualities out in others. That means that you have to live in the present, heal some of your wounds of your past, and don’t allow the wall around you to get so high that you can’t see over it.
Do you have trust issues?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of the day: “Love The Hurt Away” - Eric Benét