Every person whether they want to acknowledge it or not has had a “Red Flag Warning.” That moment when you are in conversation with another person, and they say or do something that doesn’t feel right. And, yet most of us will just over look this uncomfortable moment and will tuck it away in a bed full of excuses. The funny thing about the “Red Flag Warnings” especially in relationships is that when we come to the end of the relationship we always seem to remember the “Red Flags” that we saw early on and chose to ignore.
Here’s the thing, people will always show you who they are, just as we show who we are. But, because of loneliness or plain old animal attraction, we overlook the things that don’t sit well with us. And, yet with horns blaring and flags waving we will continue walking into the danger zone. We will fool ourselves into believing that this thing that doesn’t sit well with us can be overlooked, or it is something that we can fix. It’s true that it takes time to get to know someone, but there are a lot of important things you can learn in a short time– if you just pay attention.
It’s always good to know what it is you need and want from any relationship as well as your intentions in the relationship. If you’re clear about who you are, what you need and want for yourself, then when you meet someone and the “Red-Flags” waves you know to precede with caution. But, if you’re not clear you about who you are, it is easy to fool yourself into believing that the situation is something you can work with or fix.
As the old saying goes “you can’t judge a book by it’s cover,” and that is true, but if you can take 10 minutes you can open a book and skim the pages. If you look closely, pay attention, and trust your instincts you might see that there may not be a happy ending at the end of that particular story for you. Trust your instincts they can save you a lot of heartache and grief.
Do you trust your instincts?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye