No More Excuses

We all have a back-story, the things that have happened to us, and the things that yes in many ways make us who we are.  No matter what has happened to you, you cannot allow your circumstances to be your excuses for not being all that you can be or not doing all that you could be doing. 

No ones life is perfect. No ones life is or was like what many of us have seen on television or in the movies. There are many people who have experiences abuse and neglect, but those are just experiences it doesn’t have to be who you are or what you do. Many people feel a need or desire for the love and affection that they didn’t receive, and instead of working to have a life filled with the love and affection that they desire they dwell on the past and make their past there excuse for their self-destructive behavior.  Which in turn really does nothing more, but bring them more of what makes them unhappy. 

Each person has the power to seek out different, or the power to seek out the help to be different from what they have experienced.  Happiness for some may take a little more work than for others.  The first step to finding happiness is to not look outside yourself for happiness, but in appreciating who you are. Because, as long as you continue to look outside of yourself to find happiness you’ll never find it. The second thing is to remember that life is complicated and it takes work.  You can’t get caught up judging yourself by and comparing yourself to the things that you’ve seen. You have to find the things that bring you joy and make you comfortable. Sometimes finding happiness means separating yourself from everything that you’ve known to find the things that better suite you. 

Are you allowing your past and circumstances to be your excuse??

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song : “Be Yourself”  - Debra Laws

CD : Very Special

Pride Aside

It’s a funny thing how we do or don’t do something because of our pride? Like not calling someone we care about because we want them to call first, and as both people put their pride in front of their hearts time passes, and it gets harder for anyone to say what needs to be said. 

I use to live with my pride held high, then one day I realized that pride has it’s place in your work, in your home, your family or children, but not when dealing with the heart.  We all come from different backgrounds, and have different issues, and sometimes we don’t necessarily speak the same language.  Which sometimes makes it difficult to say what needs to be said, and sometimes difficult to hear what is being said. 

So, I have learned to listen to my heart, and realize that sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war. It’s not always necessary to be right. I don’t want to look up one day to find that I miss someone that really meant something to me because I thought I had a point to prove.  When coming from a place of love so much more is always gained than pride can ever award you.   

What are you holding pride for??

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the Day: “Remember What I Told You To Forget”  - Tavares

Stand Up for What You Believe In

It’s so easy to let things go. It’s easy to go along with crowd, or to do the popular thing even when we don’t agree.  What is  hard is to stand up, to define who  you are and what you stand for.

I have rules that I live by.  Some are not popular,  but they are mine popular or not. I choose first and foremost to keep it positive in all areas of my life. There are people I can’t have around me relatives included because they insist on being toxic, negative about everything and everybody.
I speak up when I see something that I think is wrong or unfair. I don’t complain about things. I jump in and take action. To quote  Dr. Kings predecessor Vernon Johns “If you see a good fight, get in it” and that is exactly what I try to do .

So if there is something that you are not happy about don’t complain, roll up your sleeves and jump in.  The only way change can come in our world is if we each get involved. We have to donate our time, and our money. We have to make our voices heard, and our actions seen.   We have to lead by example.

The world is a very crazy place right now , but the on;y way for things to change is for us to speak up and stop supporting things that we don’t agree with or believe in.  Change is always possible, but change requires action .

Do you stand for something???

Love and blessings in divine order ,
Stacye

Song of the day : “Stand”  by Sly and the Family Stone

Worth Staying The Road

Why is it so easy to walk away from what we say we love? Why do we let pride get in the way of what we say we desire to only be unhappy with the choice that we have made?

In the past I have walked away from a relationship because of my pride, and occasionally too many friends or my up-bring in my ears to only look back and want to kick myself for not trying harder, and not fighting for what mattered to me. Then I realized what was going on in the relationship wasn't bothering me, but people who weren't in the relationship. People constantly giving an opinion base upon their own upbringing, or negative experiences.

We live in a different time. This is not the time of "Father Knows Best” or “The Brady Bunch”. Men and women have very different rolls in the world, and relationships are no longer simple to define. What worked year ago doesn't necessarily work today, and it’s important that we adjust if we want To have successful relationships of any kind.

We all fall victim to involving others in our relationships when looking for answers. We ask our friends and family the important questions instead of asking ourselves or the person we are in the relationship with. If you are grown enough to be in a relationship, then you should be grown enough to say what you need to say to who you need to say it to, and ask the questions that you need to ask without fear. Two important things to remember - 1. You shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone that you are afraid to talk to. 2. No one can have a opinion about your relationship, but you and the person that your are in it with.

The greatest moment in my life was the day I realized what was really important to me, and I chose to take responsibility for my life, my mistakes, and my heart. I was willing to stand up for what I wanted no matter what the outcome, because I couldn't go through my life wondering “what if?”. I stood up for what I wanted and the outcome was more amazing than I could have expected. From that moment on I have fearlessly moved forward never looking back, and never being afraid to express my feelings.I learned that I didn’t need to listen to the outside voices but needed open communication with the one person that I needed to talk to , and other peoples opinions didn’t matter about what mattered to me.

Our dreams, our desires, our loves are all worth staying the road.

Are you on your road??

Song of the Day: “Living With You”  Chante Moore. Kenny Lattimore
CD of the Day: Uncovered/Covered

Accepting

It’s funny how un-accepting we can be.  We criticize, we judge, and just basically make no effort to understand when people are different from ourselves.   Why is it so hard for us to accept what it different?  Why can’t we allow others to be themselves?

What makes the world interesting is individuality. Be it Black, White, Straight, Gay, Married, Single, Thin,Thick Christian, Jewish or Muslim.  Why can’t we allow others the express themselves the way they see fit? But, more importantly why can’t we appreciate and be loving towards those different?

I ask this question, because I notice that during the course of the day there is no person who does not experience or witness some form of discrimination because they themselves or someone else is in someway different in appearance or culture.  Instead of blessing the spirit that stands before us, celebrating their individuality or maybe taking a moment to get a better understanding of the other person.  The person that is considered different is treated in a rude or disrespectful manner.

We come from different times, cultures, backgrounds, and religions, but at the end of the day we have to remember we are one. There is only a difference if you want there to be. But that little bit of individuality shouldn’t get in the way of anyone being loving, kind, considerate, or understanding. Every life from every race, social economical background, and religion is valuable and should be treated as such.

Yes, we all run into those that are harmful and those people come in all colors and religions, but it still does not call for judgment just distance.  You bless them and send them on their way. We will never really understand all that there is in the world, but my won’t it be fun trying.

Were you accepting today?

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

 Song of the day : “We Are One” - Frankie Beverly and Maze

In Our Words

As we go through our days talking about this, and talking about that so effortlessly we never really think about the power of your words, and the energy that we put out into the world.

If most of us were to for just one day really pay attention to our dialog we might notice some of the negative, unhealthy, unhappy, and unsuccessful things that we can say about ourselves, and about others.

In this one day of awareness, of being conscience, and making an effort to be more positive in our words and actions it could possibly change not only how we look at things, and maybe even change our lives to something more healthy, positive, happy, and successful. This one day  could change how we see ourselves, and how others see and treat us.

Do you pay attention to your words???

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

From the book “It’s All In How You Look at It (thought and questions about life)

Song of the day: “Beautiful” - Christina Aguilera
CD of the day: “Stripped” (2002) - Christina Aguilera

Living The American Dream

From the day we’re born there is someone telling us the dream we should hold for our life. You go to school, go to college, you find a mate, and you marry, buy a house that hopefully has a white picket fence, and have 2.5 children. Whether these plans suit us or not the people in our life wait for us to complete this list. We are constantly asked why are we single, when are we getting married, and when will we be having children as though there couldn’t possible be another course of action. The unfortunate thing is that the effort to achieve and maintain this so called dream can in many cases be the cause of stress and unhappiness.

Never in the course of all this planning are we asked or do we even consider what we what or what would make us happy. The thing is that happiness is different for everyone. For some the standard American Dream might be a dream come true, but for others it might very well be a nightmare.

Only you can know what will make you happy and the road that you need to take to find and achieve your happiness. It’s not about the dream you have been sold, or trying to keeping up with “The Jones’s”, but finding those things that bring joy to your life whether anyone around you understands them or not.

Are you living your own American Dream or someone else’s ???

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

Song o the day: “Expression” - Salt-N-Pepa
CD: Blacks' Magic

Gratitude

On this day I want to acknowledge all the positive things that have happened in my life. Many people get pick a day on the calendar to reevaluate their life thinking of the things that they want to change or let go of. I choose to look at my life today and everyday and focus on all the people and things that I am grateful for.  Because I am grateful for so much.

I am grateful that I have been allowed to see another day . I am grateful for all the people in my life that care about me and have cared about me along the way. I am grateful for all the things that I have learned and gained, but most of all I am just grateful that I have the ability to be grateful.  

To understand that gratitude is the greatest gift that a person can give to  themselves. To be grateful for the life that they have. Not everything is always as we wanted it, and there are obviously things that we might have done differently, but things are always as it should be. Everything is perfect. Whatever has gone on you my life know that it was an opportunity to learn, to grow and to understand something new. Things may not have always been the way you wanted them to, but that doesn’t mean that they were wrong or bad, just different than you would have chosen.

Today choose to be grateful and to thank everyone in your life and everyone that has passed through your life for being a part of your journey and allowing you to share a part of their journey.

                 Wishing you a very Happy Thanksgiving!!!!

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

My song of the day “As”  - by Stevie Wonder

The Little Voice

We each have a compass that guides us through life. It is that little voice, our gut , or instinct that leads us forward. If you listen carefully that voice always leads you in the right direction for you.  That voice will lead you on your perfect path, to your perfect destiny. We each have that something that is just for us and our own road to getting there. 

The thing about this voice is that we all have one, we just don’t all chose to listen. Our heart speaks and yet we will sometimes not listen because of fear or impatience, or we are trying to do what we think is the right thing or the thing that will lead to what we think that we want or need.   

The truth is we don’t always know what is right for us  or what will  help us best to get where we want to go. Many times we get in our own way our slowing our progress because we are so busy trying to force a situations instead of allowing things to move as they should.

Always listen to that little voice. It Is there for you and you alone to help you navigate these sometimes difficult waters of life. You are never alone because God has got you, and if you listen closely you will always hear the words you need to hear and you will always be on your right road.  

Remember fear and faith cannot occupy the same space. 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye