In relationships it’s easy to find things to be angry about, but much harder to take the time to try and understand where the other person is coming from, and to try and help them to better understand you. We are all guilty of being angry with our partner for doing something that we felt he or she should have known would upset or hurt us, but what we forget is that we all have our own back-story, our own way of looking at things, and our own life experiences that shapes how we look at and handle situations.
When you have made the decision to be in a relationship you have to put aside your ego and learn to speak and listen with your heart. It’s not always about being right, but about both of you helping the other to better understand your views, your wants and your needs. We have to remember that we never go into relationships on level ground. We each have our own life experiences and examples that we use to help us in conducting our relationships, but no matter what those experiences and examples are it’s important to not get angry when things occur that you don’t like, but to lovingly help the other person to understand you just as you should lovingly try to understand them.
Each relationship is a chance to tell a new story. It’s not about being right or wrong. It’s not about winning the war, but about loving each other. So, check your ego at the door and try to understand where the other person is coming from.
Are you being understanding or are you too busy trying to win the war???
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “Understanding” Xscape
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