For some reason many of us believe that love can only be between two people, but where did we get that? There is a very big difference between loving someone, and being in love with someone. We all have our friends and our family, but how we feel about them is different from the person that you are in a committed relationship with.
The sad thing is that most people treat their relationships like possessions, with a mine mine, mine attitude. We don’t want anyone that we consider ours to be friends with anyone else, especially the opposite sex. It’s almost like we can’t understand what they would need someone else for. To make matters worst we deny ourselves friends of the opposite and same sex in the name of being faithful.
Here’s the deal, we as people need other people. Relationships are not houses, cars, or something that you bought at the mall. As “in love” as you might be with the person you’re in a committed relationship with it doesn’t mean that you can’t have a life, or that your partner can’t have a life. What it does mean is that you have found someone that you choose to give as much of yourself as you are capable of giving to someone, and that at least for the time being this is the person that you want to spend your life with. What you have to keep in mind is that as in love with your partner as you may be it’s almost impossible for them to be everything to you, as much as you would like for them to be, and vice versa.
This is where friends come in, those of the same sex and those of the opposite sex. It’s nice to have friends that you have a shared interest with, especially if it’s something that your partner isn’t interested in, But, the real question that you have to be clear about is are you in the relationship that you want to be in and you just have friends, or are you looking for a way out of your relationship?
Just because two people of the opposite sex are friends it doesn’t mean that they are physically attracted to each other, but they could be. That very fine line is either going to get crossed or it’s not, but either way all the jealousy in the world isn’t going to make a difference. This is why it is so important to know yourself and what you want, and to be clear with whom ever you’re in a relationship with about the kind of relationship you want to have with them.
The important thing to remember is that you are a consenting adult as is your partner, and whatever is going to happen is going to happen, and all jealousy really does is drive people apart , it never brings them closer together.
How are you handling your relationship??
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of the day: Settle For My Love - Patrice Rushen
CD: Pizzazz