Sexless or Loveless

It’s easy to fall into a pattern. The challenge comes in working to break the pattern. Patterns in what we eat, and what we do. Some of our patterns can be good for us and to our advantage, while others can create more of a problem. 

In relationships it’s easy to fall into bad patterns or habits of taking your partner for granted. Sometimes because we get so caught up in our own going on’s that we forget that we have chosen to share the experience of a relationship with another person, but yet we expect them to be there waiting for that moment that when we decide that we want to spend time with them. The thing that we don’t realize is that we are creating a bigger problem then there needs to be, and in many cases fixing the relationship is easier said then done.

Each person whether they admit it or not needs some form of attention, affection, companionship and love. It is one of the reasons that we connect with other people. So, how can a relationship last if one or both are neglecting the other? Simple – it can’t. 

There are many reason why a couple may not be able to be intimate, but no good reason why they cannot remain affectionate or pay some sort of attention to their partner. So, if your relationship has reached a point where you can no longer be affectionate, than maybe you have reached a point where you are somewhere you no longer need to be.

Being somewhere where you are not happy or where you don’t want to be makes no sense at all. It is only fear and laziness that hold you back and can make you believe that life cannot be better than where you are.

Relationships are continuous work, but they can and should also bring great pleasure. If you are not in a relationship that makes you happy, lifts you up, and makes you feel good, then you might be in the wrong relationship.  If you have reached a point in your relationship where you are going through the motion than it is time that you start putting in the work  to make things better, or hit the road to find what and who will make you happy, because a relationship without love isn’t really a relationship at all.

Are you willing to do the work????

Love and Blessings in divine order,

Song of the day : Is It Still Good to Ya - Ashford & Simpson
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