The Rebound and The Bandage

It’s funny when a love affair is over. We find ourselves lonesome and in need of attention. We sometimes end up in situations that we very quickly realize we would have been better off without. We end up on the rebound. 

The thing about the rebound that we have to remember is that it is one of the most unfair things we can do to another person. We are bringing them a wounded and incomplete person with baggage that hasn’t been dealt with.  We in most cases still miss and far too often still think about the person we just separated from.  We are bringing them exactly what we don’t want someone to bring to us.  We are bringing them someone who is emotionally not really available to be in a relationship. 

When the heart is wounded just like any other part of the body it needs time to heal, and mend.  That healing is not something that happens over night.  A broken heart  just like a scrap on the knee with each day it feels and looks better.  Until one day you wake up and it doesn’t hurt as bad, and the wound has healed. There will always be a scar that will remind us, but that horrible pain that we felt no longer exist. 

There are many things we can use to help the healing along like spending time with family, good friends, or taking in some culture.  We can finish a project or projects that we have been putting off. Maybe even get a second job. There is nothing like keeping busy to make the time pass. Now just like any other wound the bandage is good for a while and then you need to take it off to let the wound get some air. 

There is no telling how long a wound will take to heal, but the fairest thing we can do for ourselves and the next person we want to be in a relationship with is to heal, so that we can give them our best. 

Do you heal or rebound???

Love and blessings in divine order, 


Song of the day: “Betterman”  - Musiq Soulchild    

CD of the day: “ Luvanmusiq” - - Musiq Soulchild