Many times we can’t understand our partners behavior or their reaction to some thing that we have done. We think that they are over reacting or being too sensitive. We never take the time to think about where these emotions are coming from. They are coming from a wound that hasn’t healed.
Just like we all have a back-story we all have emotional baggage, those wounds from the past whether from our childhood or our past relationships that might not have healed yet. This baggage has a way of sometimes getting in the way of our happiness in the present and if we don’t deal with it can get in the way of our happiness in the future.
Many times because of our own lack of understanding or lack of compassion we miss out on great relationships and opportunities because someone’s baggage scares us, but what we forget is that we have our own emotional baggage to. The sad thing is that many times instead of trying to understand what is going on with someone we catch the first train out of Dodge.
Most people don’t realize how much of their past they carry with them and how it is affecting their relationships. Sometimes it’s as simple as pointing something out or nurturing them through the situation. That is not to say that you have to feel that you have to fix everyone you meet. Sometimes the damage is obvious, and might require much more work and time than you want to put in or are capable of putting in, but sometimes a little understanding can go along way.
We all have a history, which is why it’s so important to be honest about who you are when going into a relationship, and to be with someone that you are able to talk to even about those things that are painful. The better we know our partners and they know us the easier it is to not be offended or hurt by the things that the other might say or do, but to work towards healing old wounds instead of reopening them.
Are you working on and healing your wounds from the past so that you can have an amazing present as well as future?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “In Too Deep”- Jon B.
CD: Helpless Romantic