We each desire to love and be loved, but it isn’t always so easy to obtain what we desire. Many of us learn how to be in relationships by the examples set by our families, friends and sometimes the media. But, we didn’t all see loving or healthy examples. We repeat the same patterns we’ve witnessed over and over again, and when they don’t work we want to know why. What we forget is that each person and each relationship are different, and although there can be some similarities no two people or two relationships can ever be alike.
We want to believe that there is this one magical solution to a successful relationship, but there isn’t. We want finding someone to be easy, and we want the relationship to be easy, but the game of love is no different thenplaying your favorite sport. To be good at the game, or to get to the play-offs it takes a lot of hard work, and focus.
Love is no different than Basketball. You can’t win the game by yourself. If you have ever played a sport you know that it requires practice, discipline, trial and error, research, learning your teammates strengths and weaknesses as well as your own, observation, communication, and dedication, but most of all it takes team work.
We can all have the relationship that we desire, but it requires that we put as much effort into the finding and maintaining of the relationship as we would any other goal that we would work to achieve.
Are you showing up to the game to win?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “The Game of Love (feat. Michelle Branch)” - Santana
From the book: “It’s All In How You Look At It (thoughts and questions about love and relationships)