Many times we think that because the relationship we’re in is not as we wish for it to be we label it as complicated. What you have to remember is that you are either in a relationship or you are not –there is no in between. It may not be the relationship that you started out to be in, or it may not be moving the pace that you would like, but again you are in a relationship or you are not.
If you are in a relationship and it is not what you want it to be, then you have to figure out if it is where you want to stay, and if so, you have to figure out how you can make it the relationship that you want it to be. If it’s not the relationship you want, and not worth the work to fix it, than you need to figure out how to remove yourself from the relationship and move towards having the relationship that you want to be in.
We sit on the fence because we are afraid. We are afraid if we love wholeheartedly that love won’t be returned, or we are afraid to leave an unhappy relationship because we might end up alone. What you are really doing is putting up a roadblock to the type of relationship that you really want. You either have to work for it or put yourself in the position to find it.
Like anything that we truly wish to be successful at a relationship requires commitment. You cannot sit on the fence, you cannot wonder–you have to commit. If the relationship is what you want, than you have to commit until you no longer wish to be with that person and no longer wish to commit to the relationship. If the relationship is not what you want than then you have to be brave enough to live the life that is best for you.
So, the next time you go to describe your relationship think about this. You are in a relationship or you are not. It is not complicated. If you are planning to end the relationship, separated or getting divorced you are still in a relationship and you’re in it until you are not. If there is a relationship that you are working at or trying to be in you are either in it or you are not. You can't sit on the fence waiting on the what if, and waiting to see how it turns out. You have to commit to the relationship. Because once you commit then you will be in the relationship, and be moving closer to the type of relationship you want, but as long as you treat the relationship like you are not in it, then you won’t be. Are you in a relationship or not?
Love and blessings in divine order,
Song of the day: “Love” Musiq Soulchild