The Commitment

There are a lot of things that we are taught in life, but the one we are never really taught is how to be in a healthy and happy relationship. It’s almost like we assume that just because we found someone that of the opposite sex or the same sex that we are interested in that things should just work out. But, the truth is that there is more to a relationship than just attraction, and like anything that we want to be successful at a relationship takes continuous work and commitment.

Deep down we all have a desire to love and be loved, but we may not know how to go about it. For most of us we learn how to be in relationships from our parents and the other people in our immediate circle. If we see drama, jealousy, abuse or cheating than we assume that, that is what people do in relationships, but it doesn’t have to be that way. To achieve the relationship that you desire is really all in your choices and in your commitment. Not just the commitment to the other person, but a commitment to yourself to have a great relationship. Just because you have seen something doesn’t mean that, that it is the way things should be. What matters is what feels good to you and your partner and what make you feel good.

To have the right relationship first starts with loving yourself and finding that someone that you are of course attracted to, but more importantly someone that you connect with on a deeper level, someone that you have shared interest with, as well as common goals and beliefs. 

What really makes a relationship successful is mutual love and respect. It’s about being fearless, and not worrying about the what if’s, and the what could possibly go wrong, or giving up when things get tough, but committing to working at making your relationship the best it can be. That starts with being loving, kind, thoughtful, and considerate. It’s about giving to your partner exactly what it is you claim to want for yourself - which is love. Love through the good times as well as the challenging times. 

Are you committed?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Puttin' In Work

Each day is chance to not just get things done or an opportunity to attempt at something again, but the opportunity to do the very best that we can.

We all have hopes and desires for ourselves, and sometimes there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day, week, or month to do all of the things that we want or need to do, but each day is another chance to accomplish those things. Because at the end of the day the only obstacle you can ever really have is yourself.

It’s easy to get caught up with all the excuses, to procrastinate, or to blame someone else for you not having the life you want, but the easiest way to get things done is to be clear about what it is that you need or want to do for your life. Everything starts with an idea followed by an intention. If you say that you have something that you want to accomplish like new job, a new home, a new body, or a better relationship, than it’s not about talking about it, but being about what it is that you want. 

Each day you should have a window of time whether it is 5 minutes or 5 hours set aside for you are working on your goals. That could be praying on it or researching about it as long as you are doing something to help move you closer to what you desire.You may not be in formal school anymore, but you are always in the school of life. There will always be some form of studying and work to be done for you to move forward and achieve the things that you desire.Is there some work you need to get to?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

If Trust Is The Matter

Many of us whether knowingly or unknowingly allow our past relationships to play a big part in the decision making process of how we meet new people, establish a relationship with a new partner, and in our conduct during a relationship. We deny ourselves and make someone suffer because of the action of another.

Because we many times don’t look at both sides of a situation or we move on from a relationship without finding forgiveness and healing our wounds before moving on to another. We begin building this wall that with every relationship attempt continues to grow. Without doing a little work on yourself, and healing the wounds of the past one day no matter how much you have going for you, you become the last person in the room that anyone wants to get to know, and because of this wall you could find yourself one day waking up alone.

There two very big mistakes that we make in the relationship game. The first is that we forget that it takes two to tango. We not only have to acknowledge our part in the success or failure of the relationship, but we have to find the lesson and the blessings in the experience. The second mistake is that you can’t assume that every man or every woman is going to treat you the same. You can’t generalize and think that all people of a certain group are going to behave or treat you the same way that someone else has treated you in the past. If you go into a relationship believing that things are going to be a certain way, than that is exactly what your words and actions are going to make happen.

The answer: if trust is an issue for you, and you find that you are seeing a displeasing pattern in your relationships it might be time to take a long hard look at your own behavior in the relationships. Instead of placing blame on others you might have to take some responsibility. You need to figure out what is it in you that is attracting the same kind of person, or what is it that you might be doing that is bringing those qualities out in a person. That means that you have to live in the present, heal some of your wounds of your past, and don’t allow your wall to get so high that you can’t see over it.

Do you have trust issues???

Song of the day: “Love The Hurt Away” - Eric Eric Benet

CD: Day In The Life R&B

Healing The Past And The Wound

Many times we can’t understand the reaction of a partners or friend behavior to something that we have said or done. We think that they are over reacting or being too sensitive. We never take in to account where these emotions might be coming from. They are coming from wounds from the past that haven’t healed.

We all have a backstory and emotional baggage, and any many times those wounds from the past whether from our childhood or our past relationships have not been address and continue to affect us in the present. This baggage when not address has a way of getting in the way of our happiness in the present, and if not dealt with, our happiness in the future.

Many times because of our lack of understanding or lack of compassion we miss out on great relationships and opportunities because someone’s baggage is so obvious that is scares us, but what we forget is that we have our own emotional baggage. The sad thing is that many times instead of trying to understand what is going on with someone we catch the first train out of Dodge.

Most people don’t realize how much of their past they carry with them and how it affects every area of their life if not addressed. To help someone that we care about to move forward it can sometimes be as simple as pointing something out to them, or nurturing them through the situation, to turn what looked like a hopeless situation in to a situation full of hope. That is not to say that you have to fix everyone you meet. Some situations might require much more work and time than you want to put in or are capable of putting in.

We all have a history, which is why it’s so important to be honest about who you are when going into a relationship of any kind, and to be with someone that you are able to talk to even about those things that are painful. The better we know our partners and they know us the easier it is to not be offended or hurt by the things that the other might say or do, but to work towards healing old wounds instead of reopening them.

Are you working on and healing your wounds from the past so that you can have an amazing present as well as future?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: “In Too Deep”- Jon B.

CD: Helpless Romantic 

Life Is A Banquet - Eat Up!!!!!

There is so much in life to experience, but most people allow life to pass them by. They choose to allow fear to get in the way.

The life that each of us is living is only life we get. This is no dress rehearsal and there will be no do overs. So, why do so many people think about a life they want, but make no effort to live the life they want? The main reason is fear. Fear that they don’t deserve or can’t achieve the life we want. And, that fear usually get in the way of them stepping out of their routine or comfort zone to go and get what they want.

We each should want our life to be full of a whole lot of wonderful, not full of regrets. And, the only way to achieve that wonderful life that we want is to live each moment to the fullest and not allow our decisions to be guided by fear. Every experience in life should be appreciated even the ones that are uncomfortable, because even being uncomfortable has it’s benefits and blessings.

Dream your wildest dream and make it happen. You may not succeed the first time, but you will gain the experience to help you move forward. It may not be in the exact direction that you wanted to go, but you will definitely move forward. And, there is never a downside to moving forward.

 Live and love fearlessly, and know that whatever the outcome it’s for your highest good.

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: This Is Your Life   - Norman Connors "

It's All In How You Look At It" (thoughts and questions about life) Available on Amazon.com

In our Words

As we go through our days talking about this, and talking about that so effortlessly we never really think about the power of your words, and the energy that we put out into the world. 

If most of us were to for just one day really pay attention to our dialog we might notice some of the negative, unhealthy, unhappy, and unsuccessful things that we can say about ourselves, and about others. 

In this one day of awareness, of being conscience, and making an effort to be more positive in our words and actions it could possibly change not only how we look at things, and maybe even change not just our own lives , but those of others to something more healthy, positive, happy, and successful. 

This one day of awareness could change a person life. It could change not just how they see themselves, but could change how others see and treat them. 

Do you pay attention to your words???

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

From the book “It’s All In How You Look at It (thought and questions about life) 

Song of the day: “Beautiful” - Christina Aguilera

CD of the day: “Stripped” (2002) - Christina Aguilera

Knowing When To Let Go

We all have people in our lives that are in someway hurting themselves. We talk and talk yet our words fall on deaf ears. The thing that we have to remember is that we each have our own journey that we must travel, our own emotions that we must experience, and our own pain that we must handle.

It’s not always possible to know the demons that haunt a persons mind, or the demons that push someone to self-destructive behavior such as the over indulgence in drugs and alcohol. As a caring and loving friend or family member it’s our desire to help that person get the help they need, and to heal. But, sometimes no matter what we do it isn’t possible to help them, and their self-destruction becomes a destructive force not only in there own life, but in the lives of everyone around them.

As much as you can love and care for another person there comes a point when you must realize that it’s time to let them walk their walk in the way they choose to walk it, even if it’s a walk you don’t agree with or understand. Sometimes what we consider help does more harm than good. Many times a person knowing they will always have a safely blanket won’t put in the work they need to, and for some regardless of our help they must lose everything to want to get better.

If you have reached the point where you feel there is nothing more you can do the best thing you can do is to give yourselves permission to let go, and not feel guilty for letting go because someone else’s self destruction has become a destructive force not only their life, but in yours. The walk away is not cruel it is self-preservation and possibly the best gift that you can give them as well as to yourself.

Do you know when and how to let go?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

The Way We Communicate

In today’ s world of cell phones, texting and e-mail, it is easy for the true meaning of our words to get lost in translation. Although most of us make more of an effort to communicate with our convenient gadgets, we still haven’t learned how to truly communicate with each other.

Because of our fears or maybe our lack of sincerity we hide behind technology to protect our hearts, or in some cases to just get some ass. But, the reality is that there is nothing like a good old fashion face to face conversation where you hope both parties are telling the truth, but even if they aren’t you have a better chance of reading the other person when looking into there eyes.

It can be hard to put yourself out there. None of us like rejection and we are all trying to protect our hearts. In Relationships especially new relationships you are always learning and growing. Each day brings new adventures as well as new challenges. So, communication of all kinds is important. As long as what you have to say comes from your heart, than you shouldn’t fear expressing your feelings and making sure that you are properly heard and understood. It is easy to hope that someone can read between the lines and understands our cryptic messages, smiley faces, and emoji’s, but there is nothing like plain direct communication to really get your point and your feelings across.

How do you communicate?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: “Come & Talk to Me” - Jodeci

CD: Forever My Lady

It's Not Complicated

Many times we think that because we’re in relationship and the relationship is not as we wish for it to be we label it as complicated. What you have to remember is that you are either in a relationship, or you’re not. There is no in between. It may not be the relationship that you started out to be in, or maybe it’s moving along at the pace slower than you would like, but again you’re in a relationship or you’re not. 

If you’re in a relationship and it’s not what you want it to be, then you have to figure out if it’s where you want to stay, and if so how you can make it the relationship that you want it to be. If it’s not where you want to be, than you need to figure out how to move yourself out of the relationship, and move towards having the relationship that you want to be in.

We sit on the fence because we are afraid. We are afraid of getting hurt, we are afraid that someone doesn’t want or love us as much as we want and love them. We say the relationship is complicated because we are afraid that things won’t work out, so we leave ourself this pretend space of availability. But, what you are really doing is setting yourself up for failure.

Like anything that we truly wish to be successful at a relationship requires commitment. You cannot sit on the fence, you cannot wonder, you have to commit. If the relationship is what you want, than you have to commit until you no longer wish to be with that person, and no longer wish to commit to the relationship.

So, the next time you go to describe your relationship think about this. You are in a relationship or you are not. It’s not complicated. If you are planning to end the relationship, separated or getting divorced you are still in a relationship and you’re in it until you are not. If there is a relationship that you are working at or trying to be in you are either in it or you are not. You can't sit on the fence waiting on the what if, and waiting to see how it turns out. You have to commit to the relationship. Because once you commit, then you will be in the relationship, and be moving closer to the type of relationship you want, but as long as you treat the relationship like you are not in it then you won’t be.

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: “Love” Musiq Soulchild

CD Aijustwanaseing

Pay Attention To The Backstory

Many times we end up in relationships and we can’t understand why the other person does or doesn’t do something. We assume that they know better, but what we forget is that everybody has a backstory, those events from their past that have help to shape and mold who they have become.

We all assume that everyone has been taught the same etiquette. Not just how to behave in public or using their napkin, but how to treat others, especially the person that they are romantically involved with. What most of us were never taught is that with each new person that you bring in to your life you become the student and the teacher. 

As the student it’s important that you pay attention in class, because there is always something to learn from and about your new teacher. If you observe carefully they will tell you more about themselves without ever having to open their month. 

As the teacher you have to not only show up as yourself, but you must teach them how to treat you. You can’t assume that they know anything, because if they fail a test you are the only one to blame for not supplying your student with all the information needed.

We always assume that someone knows how to treat us or talk to us, but truth is you can’t know what you’re not told. 

Are you being a good student and a good teacher?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: “Teachme”   -   Musiq Soulchild  

CD: Luvanmusiq  

Wishing Well

Many times there is someone around whose life is moving in a positive and upward direction. We should be happy for their success, but unfortunately the first reaction we have is one of anger and jealously. Then we ask ourself why are things going well for them and not for us or why are they getting something and we’re not?

Instead of being happy for the other person or celebrating in their joy many times there is someone who will cast negative energy towards the other person which ranges from wanting their success to stop, to the persons complete failure. In some cases they allow their jealously to lower them to doing whatever they can think of to not only stop the other persons success, but even hurting them emotionally and/or physically. 

The truth is you can only have what is yours, and what you put out into the world whether it is negative words or actions will be is exactly what you are going to get in return - a whole bunch of negative. 

We each have a path that is our own. What is for one person is not for, nor by any means will it be for, or work the same for another person. Instead of being jealous of someone else’s life you should wish everyone well on his or her life journey, and focus on the journey that is yours. If everyone were to put their energy into their own journey instead of worrying about what someone else has or is doing as well as being happy for other people when things go well for them all that extra positive energy being put out into the world would be a step towards helping everyone reach their goals and obtain the life they desire much faster. In other words you have to put out into the world for others the energy that you want for yourself.

Are you wasting your time worrying about someone else’s life, or are you spending your time making your own dreams come true?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: “Thank You” - MaryMary

CD of the day: “Incredible”   - MaryMary 

Happy With Who You Are

It is so easy to get caught up in what the crowd is doing, and what we perceive as cool. Be it our friends, our families, and sometime even complete strangers constantly projecting onto us who they think we are or who they think we should be. With so much continuously coming at us it is easy to get caught up in what is not real. For some there is the struggle to live up to the expectations of others. So much so that it can be easy to lose touch with who you are. Then one day you wake up feeling lost and unhappy with the life that you’re living. And, if you listen closely to your words you can hear that the things you hold important are really the values of someone else.

Finding yourself is an interesting journey. It’s a journey that although there will be guides along the way you can only truly make the journey alone. It takes getting out of your comfort zone to explore things that interest you, and on occasion exploring the frightening and unknown. Once you are on the journey to truly being yourself it’s about claiming yourself no matter what, and not settling for less than what you desire or deserve. It’s about being yourself even if you are going against what is popular, and knowing that it’s okay to be different from the crowd. Finding yourself means hanging onto to your desires and views even when others try to make you question and doubt your beliefs.

Growth can sometimes be challenging, and on occasion there are friends and family who are not accepting of who you are and your choices. There may come a time when you have to distance yourself, and in some cases let go of people because they no longer fit who you are and where your life maybe going, and that is ok.  

When you know who you are living a life that is happy, and fulfilled comes almost effortlessly, and you attract more of what makes you happy as what doesn’t fit simply seems to fade away. Finding yourselves can be hard, but living a life that doesn’t fit you is harder.

Are you claiming yourself ?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: “Put Your Records On” - Corinne Bailey Rae  

 CD of the day: Corinne Bailey Rae   - Corinne Bailey Rae    

www.StacyeBranche.com

Who's In Your Relationship?

With each person that you are in a romantic relationship with you are not only in a relationship with that person, but the Village that they hold counsel with about almost every issue in your relationship, just as you have a village that you hold counsel with. When we are in a relationship we forget this very important fact. Although you can have a wonderful relationship with the Village, the Village shouldn’t have an opinion about everything going on with you and your partner.

What any person in a relationship should remember is that they have chosen to be in their relationship, to share their emotions, and have an experience with another person. An intimate or romantic relationship is between the two people that are in it, and not the two people and the Village.

It is unfortunate that in addition to people not always showing up in the relationship as themselves many people are guilty of bringing the Village along.  The Village will give their opinion on everything from how long you should date, when you should have sex, to when you should get married, and have children. They will tell you things that come from their own negative or hurt feelings about relationships.  But, the truth is none of what is going on with you and your partner is the villages business.

We all have moments of confusion, doubt and fear where relationships are concerned because there is no real handbook or road map on how to be in a relationship, and you may not have had any good example to learn from. You will make mistakes along the way, but you can only learn what is right for you and your partner by doing.  So, when there is a problem you don’t run. As they say “when you fall off the horse you have to get back on”. What that means is you go back to your partner and work thought whatever your issues are together not with the Village. Because, no matter how good someone else’s intentions may be no one should ever have an opinion about your relationship. They can only project from their own experience, which may not be anything like yours.  Which if you follow their advice nine time out of ten you will end up with a bigger mess in your relationship than you started out with.

So, in your relationship remember that you are in it with your partner and not the Village. The person you are with is not the same as anyone you have been with before. They are an individual who has chosen to be in a romantic relationship with you, and they deserve to be treated as the individual they are.  So, tell the village that the drawbridge is up, and what goes on in “The Castle” stays in “The Castle.”

Who is in your relationship?

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

Song of the day: “Ain't Nobody's Business If I Do” -     Billie Holiday

What Are You To The One You Love?

We all have qualities that we desire in our partners not just looks, but the qualities we need from a partner. Like maybe them being kind, considerate or generous towards us for example. But, as we ask for what we want and need from them, and what we want them to be to and for us isn’t it just as important to think about what we want to be to them?

What are you and what do you want to be to the person in your life? What brought this to mind was listening to people talk about what they want and need from their partner and yet in the same conversation they never speak on what they want to be to the person in their. I’ve noticed that sometimes we can be very selfish in our relationships only focusing on ourselves, not concerning ourselves with someone else wants and needs, and then wondering why there are troubles in our relationship.

As I thought about this I had to ask myself the question. What do I want to be to the person in my life, and what can I bring to their life? First, I desire to enhance their life and in some way make their life better. But, most of all I want to make them happy, and happy that they chose to spend this part of their journey with me.

What are you to the special person in your life????

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day : “Everything   “ - Jody Watley   

 CD of the day: The Best Of Jody Watley 20th Century Masters The Millennium Collection              

www.StacyeBranche.com

I Am A Tree

I am young and fragile, but I know with nourishment (love, kindness, and compassion)
I will grow big, tall and strong. 

It is important that as I grow I am protected from the elements. (Hate, fear, and danger) so that my growth is not stalled in anyway. 

I know I am growing in every second, every minute, in every hour of every day. 

Even though I cannot see it, I know I am always growing. 

As I grow I will be ever changing. (Appearance, weight, emotionally, spiritually)

I will lose some of my leaves (family, friends, habits) that will be replaced by new leaves. 

I will be ever changing and growing into the beautiful tree that has been planted, nourished, and loved by God. 

Are youloving the tree thatyou are ??? 

Love and blessings in divineorder, 
Stacye Branché 

From the book “It’s All in How You Look At It (thoughts and questions about life)” 
 

Step By Step

We realize there can be a wall or obstacle that stands before us. Now we have to figure out what it will take to remove it from our path.  It is easy to look at any situation and become overwhelmed with all that we assume it will take to deal with it. Impatience is an epidemic and unfortunately what it breeds is lack of focus, lack of drive, frustration, fear, and depression.  

Rome wasn’t built in a day and we shouldn’t think that we are going to make any significant changes in one try. But, with small efforts and a little bit of time what seemed like an unattainable goal or unmanageable situation can soon become something we can accomplish or can have a handle on. With a plan and patience there is no situation that we cannot conquer. 

So have a dream, have a goal, get a plan, and be patient.  As the saying goes “good things come to those that are willing to work hard and wait”. 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “One For All Time” – Chaka Khan

CD of the day:  “Funk This” -  Chaka Khan

www.StacyeBranche.com

You Can Do Better

We’ve all been in situations be it job, home, or with loved ones where we think to ourselves “Why am settling for this, there has to be better out there for me?” But, for whatever the reason we don’t go after the better that we know we want and deserve.

I recently found myself in one of those situations, and as the event was going on all I kept saying to myself was “I can do better”. So, in that moment I stopped saying “I can do better” and started doing better. I took action. I made the choice to have better, and made decisions that would lead me to the better that I desired.

What I noticed was in that moment that I made that declaration I felt empowered, and seem to shed whatever it was that made me settle for the situation in the first place. In the next breath I had to ask myself “What was I thinking?” Although that was really unimportant, because all that really mattered was that I could see what was better for me, and I had the courage to do what needed to be done.Throughout our lives there have and will continue to be moments when the light comes on and a change is made. It’s a moment that won’t come any faster than when we’re ready for it to come and accept the changes that are necessary. 

No matter how much our friends and family try to tell us that we need to make a change in our lives, that change won’t come until we are personally ready for all that comes with that change. But, the moment won’t come until we are tired enough of the old, and we know in our hearts we want and can do better.

Do you know you can do better? 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “I Will Survive” -     Gloria Gaynor 

CD of the day: “I Will Survive: The Anthology”- Gloria Gaynor      

We Need Each Other

Although born alone, and in most cases we die alone the real truth is that we need each others to live.  Every person has a purpose, something that they bring to the table. 

The thing that we need most from each other is love. Love, Companionship, Communication, Attention, and Affection. We can act like we can get by without them, but again we need each other, some more than others, for one reason or another. So, with that said why don’t we honor our relationships more? Why do we take them for granted? For that matter why do we take for granted the person bagging our groceries, or the waitress serving our food - people we need?   Remember, we all make this planet work in our own way. 

I hear people talking about what they want, but what is it that they give?  I know what I need in my relationships, and for that reason I try to give the same, as well as being conscience of the needs of others. I try to surround myself with like-minded people, especially my partner.  I know that I must communicate my needs, and I want the people in my life to communicate their needs to me. I want to do my best to make them happy, as I hope they want to do the same for me.  As they say, “close mouths don’t get feed”, and I make sure I am never hungry. ☺ 

So, speak up, and take action.  If you know you are affectionate don’t keep trying to be with someone who can’t stand to touch. If you like adventure, then you and a Couch Potato are probably goingto have a few issues . Why be unhappy, and it is unfair to want anyone to change for you.  Love is accepting someone for who they are. There is someone out there who likes to touch, and do all the things you like to do.  There are over 6 Billion people in the world which means 10% of them are just right for you. 

If the two of you use to like the same thing, then it is time to communicate, and find out what how to get the spark back.  We weren’t meant to be alone. We need each other. 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song on the day:   “We Both Need Each Other”   -  Norman Connors

Moving Past the Pain

We all know pain that comes from a disappointing situation or aloss. It’s easy to let that pain get the best of you which can show itself in many different ways such as depression, not wanting to get out of bed, drinking, over eating and sometimes drugs. It’s natural to have sad moments. Everyone needs a moment to mourn a loss of any kind, but the trick is to not stay there feeling sorry for yourself.  It’s in those times that you must not just search inside for your faith but your understanding of what is really going on with you.   

You need to ask yourself real questions like…

What is it that is really hurting me?  

What canI do to turn the situation around for myself? 

What is the path that I need to take to healing myself? 

What are the things that if only for a short moment can bring me joy while I am in this valley? 

It’s in this time of self-examination that helps you to not only grow, but to move forward and help you to heal the wounds. Valleys are apart of life,. They are just moments in time. They are not who you are or how your life has to be.  They do not define you.

Are you moving past the pain???

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day:  “High On Sunshine”  - The Commodores

CD of the day:  “Hot On The Tracks”  - The Commodores

www.StacyeBranche.com

You Can't Force Love

Recently I have received several e-mails from people expressing that the one they love doesn’t love them or has fallen out of love with them. It makes me sad because love is such a beautiful experience to share, but what makes me sadder is that these people don’t realize how amazing they are and that the relationship they might have been in or desired might not at this point in their lives be the right relationship for them.

It’s sometimes hard for people to see that they are hanging onto something that isn’t working for them and might be stopping them from having the love and relationship that they desire and deserve. We can never control or force someone else’s emotions and we shouldn’t want to. Just because we think we know what is best for someone doesn’t mean that we do. We each have our own path to walk, and lessons to learn in life. Those lessons are learned in all area’s of our life including love. As we learn our lessons we each want and need different people in our life, and sometimes we grow away from people. Even people that we can deeply for.

When you love and know yourself you can see past the surface of the people that you come in contact with and the people already in your life. You will know what really works for you. If you truly know your wants and needs you will be able to see the reason someone has fallen out of love or doesn’t choose to be with you romantically and know that it is probably the best thing for both of you. 

If a relationship isn’t working you can’t keep trying to force someone to be in the relationship the way that you want him or her to be in it. Instead of making the relationship work you will probably end up resenting each other, and that resentment is a lot harder of a bridge to mend.

People come into your life for a reason and a season. Sometimes you have acquired the lesson needed, and the season has ended. Love you, know you and know that there is always going to be someone who wants to know and love you too. There will be someone who will fit perfectly with the person you are right now at this point in your life.

Are you stopping yourself from finding or allowing true love to find you? 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye                                                    

 www.StacyeBranche.com