Befriended In An Empty Room

The greatest relationship any of us will ever have is the relationship that we have with ourselves; that understanding of self, and more important the love of self.  With this understanding it’s easier to know what we need and want in our lives.  With that said although the relationship with ourselves is important we all need and want to have positive relationships with others. 

Many times we allow our fears of the unknown, painful memories from our past, and our own unrealistic expectations of how a relationships should be, to get in the way of us living the life that we claim to want.  We have beliefs on how our friends, and lovers should behave towards us as well as in their own life.  We each have to remember that no one is perfect, we all have our flaws, and although we would all wish for our lives to be fairytale's we are living a real life.

Many people go into relationships looking for the fairytale, when things don’t go as expected they become disappointed and give up before a relationship can go anywhere.  All relationships take time, communication, understanding, and forgiveness. You being in someone else's life and them being in yours requires you tolet go of your expectations and see and deal with the other person for exactly for who they are. There may be many things that aren’t as you thought that they should be, but there could be many more that are more than you expected. 

Many times people experience loneliness because they are allowing their lack of comfort with themselves and their expectations of how life should be to cloud their perception of what life really is. Your life is yours. It is your unique journey and experiences, and you can’t allow others to project their beliefs about life and relationships onto you.  The love you desire could be closer than you think, but you might have allowed silly things like the belief of others to get in your way. 

There are people that don’t need to be in your life, but sometimes you could be pushing the ones away that should be in your life because of fear, judgment, and unreasonable expectations. It’s good to know who you are and what you want and need, but you have to believe that what you want is out there for you. The thing is you can only live in the moment. So, be easy on yourself and others. Let go of your belief of how life should be, and live in the moment experiencing the perfection of the unknown.   

Are you being realistic about the expectations that you have of your relationships?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “To Be Loved” – Jackie Wilson

A Gift of Love - In memory of Aunt Alma

The funny thing about life is that we take it and the people in it for granted.  The length and quality of our life is not always within our control.   We treat each moment as though it is owed to us. We waste time, and we miss opportunities, but the thing that most of us miss out on most is love.   

We are constantly running around feeling that everything is more important than actually living and enjoying our life.  The lesson I have learned in my life is that nothing is guaranteed, but most importantly what I learned is that the time that we can spend with our loved ones at any minute can be cut short. For that reason I try to make sure that the people in my life know how I feel about them by my actions and in my words not just because I want them to know, but because I don’t want to miss the opportunity and I want to have no regrets. 

Today my Aunt Alma would turned 103 years old. The lessons that I learned from her waslove. At 97 although she was a little slower she was still alert and so full of life, but most important she was so full of love.  She wants you to sit next to her, to hold her hand and kiss her (she loves kisses).  She radiated and expressed her love, a thing that most of us don’t know or have forgotten. What I would see when I looked at her was how important it was to have people around you that love and care about you, that love keeps you going, but more important that love it is worth living for. 

We all put so much ahead of our happiness and well being, but at the end of the day it is really all about the love.  Cars, houses, and things unfortunately most people don’t realize can’t really make you happy, and once acquired most people find their lives very empty.

Love regenerates and heals. It is worth sacrificing for and worth protecting. Life is to be lives to the fullest, and in your making a living it is important to make room for the LOVE.

Are you making room for love in your life???

Love and blessings in divine order, 
Stacye


Song of the day: “Greatest Gift” - Tamika Scott    
CD of the day: Tyler Perry's "Daddy's Little Girls" - Music Inspired By the Film            
 

The Little Voice

We each have a compass that guides us through life. It is that little voice, our gut , or instinct that leads us forward. If you listen carefully that voice always leads you in the right direction for you.  That voice will lead you on your perfect path, to your perfect destiny. We each have that something that is just for us and our own road to getting there. 

The thing about this voice is that we all have one, we just don’t all chose to listen. Our heart speaks and yet we will sometimes not listen because of fear or impatience, or we are trying to do what we think is the right thing or the thing that will lead to what we think that we want or need.   

The truth is we don’t always know what is right for us  or what will  help us best to get where we want to go. Many times we get in our own way our slowing our progress because we are so busy trying to force a situations instead of allowing things to move as they should.

Always listen to that little voice. It Is there for you and you alone to help you navigate these sometimes difficult waters of life. You are never alone because God has got you, and if you listen closely you will always hear the words you need to hear and you will always be on your right road.  

Remember fear and faith cannot occupy the same space. 

Love and blessings in divine order, 
Stacye

Healing The Past an The Wounds

Many times we can’t understand our partners behavior or their reaction to some thing that we have done. We think that they are over reacting or being too sensitive. We never take the time to think about where these emotions are coming from. They are coming from a wound that hasn’t healed.

Just like we all have a back-story we all have emotional baggage, those wounds from the past whether from our childhood or our past relationships that might not have healed yet. This baggage has a way of sometimes getting in the way of our happiness in the present and if we don’t deal with it can get in the way of our happiness in the future.

Many times because of our own lack of understanding or lack of compassion we miss out on great relationships and opportunities because someone’s baggage scares us, but what we forget is that we have our own emotional baggage to. The sad thing is that many times instead of trying to understand what is going on with someone we catch the first train out of Dodge.

Most people don’t realize how much of their past they carry with them and how it is affecting their relationships. Sometimes it’s as simple as pointing something out or nurturing them through the situation. That is not to say that you have to feel that you have to fix everyone you meet. Sometimes the damage is obvious, and might require much more work and time than you want to put in or are capable of putting in, but sometimes a little understanding can go along way. 

We all have a history, which is why it’s so important to be honest about who you are when going into a relationship, and to be with someone that you are able to talk to even about those things that are painful. The better we know our partners and they know us the easier it is to not be offended or hurt by the things that the other might say or do, but to work towards healing old wounds instead of reopening them.

Are you working on and healing your wounds from the past so that you can have an amazing present as well as future?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: “In Too Deep”- Jon B.

CD: Helpless Romantic

Revenge

I was watching a story on television the other day. It was a story about a man who had remarried. He apparently had an affair with his present wife while still married, and his former wife blamed the present wife for as she said "Breaking up her marriage, and destroying her life". 

I have over the years heard men and woman use that same phrase about their past relationships "Someone has destroyed their life", "Someone is living a life that should be theirs" , but the truth of the matter is that "No one can take from you what is yours".  People are not processions, and our relationships are a privilege not an obligation. We are so quick to blame others for what goes wrong in our lives.  This person did this to us, this person didn't do that, or someone took something from us. Never taking responsibility for our part in our own lives.  Maybe the relationship had run it's course, or maybe a person ran their partner off with their behavior.

I have asked friends who have cheated on their partners why?  Be they men or women they basically give the same reason. They were in a relationship they weren't happy with. For whatever reason they stayed, the children, the mortgage, they wouldn't or couldn't leave.    There was something that they found in the new person that made the happy, and they chose to go and be happiness .

In my own life I want whoever I am involved with to be happy, be it with me or not. I think it is so sad to see someone harbor such negative feelings towards another person especially someone they claim to have loved.  When they should really wish the other person well, and move onto their own happiness. If a person who was sitting around being bitter was to realize how silly they were wasting their life being unhappy, while the person that they are spewing all those negative feelings towards has moved on, happy, and I'm pretty sure not spending their time thinking about the past.

The past is just that;  the past. You can't change it, but you can work towards a better future. If revenge is something that you  are just itching to have I was always told that looking good, and doing good are the best revenge of all.

Are  you holding on to something that you need to let go of?

Love and Blessings in divine order,
Stacye

 

The Rebound and The Bandage

It’s funny when a love affair is over. We find ourselves lonesome and in need of attention. We sometimes end up in situations that we very quickly realize we would have been better off without. We end up on the rebound. 

The thing about the rebound that we have to remember is that it is one of the most unfair things we can do to another person. We are bringing them a wounded and incomplete person with baggage that hasn’t been dealt with.  We in most cases still miss and far too often still think about the person we just separated from.  We are bringing them exactly what we don’t want someone to bring to us.  We are bringing them someone who is emotionally not really available to be in a relationship. 

When the heart is wounded just like any other part of the body it needs time to heal, and mend.  That healing is not something that happens over night.  A broken heart  just like a scrap on the knee with each day it feels and looks better.  Until one day you wake up and it doesn’t hurt as bad, and the wound has healed. There will always be a scar that will remind us, but that horrible pain that we felt no longer exist. 

There are many things we can use to help the healing along like spending time with family, good friends, or taking in some culture.  We can finish a project or projects that we have been putting off. Maybe even get a second job. There is nothing like keeping busy to make the time pass. Now just like any other wound the bandage is good for a while and then you need to take it off to let the wound get some air. 

There is no telling how long a wound will take to heal, but the fairest thing we can do for ourselves and the next person we want to be in a relationship with is to heal, so that we can give them our best. 

Do you heal or rebound???

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Betterman”  - Musiq Soulchild    

CD of the day: “ Luvanmusiq” - - Musiq Soulchild    

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Closure

Closure, what a word. Is any situation ever really over?  There are always the memories, the photos, and the friends that always seem to say remember when??  

I think the pain really comes from the trying so hard to let go and forget. Our believing That because the relationship is over we shouldn’t care anymore. When you live your life without regret you can embrace the people you have loved whether they are in your life any longer or not. You can embrace the memories and experiences for what they are … lessons.  They are lessons that have helped to shape who you have become and who you will be moving forward.

It is silly to think that you won’t hurt . Like any loss you will go through a grieving period. Over time you will feel better and love again. You will find someone who better suits who you have grown into. 

I have loved and lost and  I send nothing but love and well wishes to those I have loved . I wish for their happiness wherever they may be, because I know in wishing them the best I am truly loving them, but more importantly I am loving myself.

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

Song of the day: “Closure”  - Gerald Levert
CD of the day : “G Spot”

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When To Let Go

Why do we hold on so tightly to things when they no longer seem to work? Many times we are in relationships that no longer work for us. We wake up one day and realize that the relationship no longer fits our life or our path for a variety of reasons. Maybe we no longer want to same thing as our partner, our partner has changed, or cheated. So, why does it become so hard to let go? Is it love, is it fear, or could it be low self-esteem on our part?

Plan and simple. "Everything must change, nothing stays the same". No truer words have been spoken. If your relationship no longer works, it could just means that the relationship has run it's course. Maybe you have both gotten from the relationship what you needed, and it is time for you both to move onto the next lesson of your life, or maybe you weren't meant to be together in the first place. But, whatever the reason there is never a good reason to be anywhere where you're unhappy. You can't make someone else be who and what you want them to be. All you can really do is focus on you and what you need at this point in your life. 

We are in a society that has taught us to stay in our homes, in our relationship, and in our jobs until the day we die. Sometimes that works, but sometime it doesn't, and that is okay. It’s okay to want different than what society has told you you should want or have. It doesn't mean you have failed if you can’t make things work the way that you‘ve been taught to. What it means is that you have a good sense of self and you are aware of what does and does not work for you.

Like everything else in life a relationship isn’t necessarily going to last forever. Just because a relationship doesn’t work does not mean that you have failed. We grow, we change and we want different things, and that is okay. Give yourself permission to be happy, because the true goal in life is to be is Happy.

Are you holding on for the wrong reasons??

Love and Blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: "Kiss and Say Goodbye"– The Manhattans

CD of the day: The Best of The Manhattans

Starting Over

The funny thing about a relationship that’s supposed to be over is how it seems to linger on. Everything in the worlds says to us it is time to move forward. It’s time to start the next chapter in our life and find a new player or players, but our heart and emotions seem to have trouble moving forward. 

You know that you are always going to love the person you were in a relationship with. You will always have memories and feeling. If you didn't than you never really loved them in the first place.  As my grandfather use to say “your mind is your photo album”,  that is part of growing older. Your mental album grows. So now it’s time to make new memories to put into that album. 

It’s those old memories that make you want to go back to where you know you no longer belong. What you have to remember is you’ve let go of someone, and you’re going to experience feelings of loss. There will be good days and bad days. It’s only natural. Those memories will haunt you and make you miss and want to return to the relationship that was.  What you have to remember is that if things were that good you would still be in that relationship with that person.

You should always be grateful for the the experience. You should never forget those things that made you smile, but even more importantly you should never forget the things that hurt you and made it necessary for you to go your own way. If you know what you need and want from a relationship, than you have to hold out for it. Never give up hope that what you desire for yourself is out there for you. You have to keep a positive attitude and plan for your future and a not let your past get in our way. 

Is it time to start over?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Ain’t No Use” – Stevie Wonder

CD of the day: “Fulfillingness' First Finale” – Stevie Wonder 

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No More Excuses

We all have a back-story, the things that have happened to us, and the things that yes in many ways make us who we are. No matter what has happened to us we cannot allow our circumstances to be our excuses for not being all that we can be or not doing all that we could be doing.

No ones life is perfect. No ones life is or was like what many of us have seen on television or in the movies. There are many people who have experiences abuse and neglect, but those are just experiences it doesn’t have to be who you are or what you do. Many people feel a need or desire for the love and affection that they didn’t receive, and instead of working to have a life filled with the love and affection that they desire they dwell on the past and make their past there excuse for not working towards the life they desire or possibly their self-destructive behavior. Which in turn really does nothing more but make them more unhappy and in most cases move them further away from what they say they desire. 

Each person has the power to seek out different, or the power to seek out the help to be different from what they have experienced. Happiness for some may take a little more work than for others. The first step to finding happiness is to not look outside yourself for happiness, but in appreciating who you are. Because, as long as you continue to look outside of yourself to find happiness you’ll never find it. Because true happiness starts with self. The second thing is to remember that life is complicated and it takes work. You can’t get caught up judging yourself by and comparing yourself to the things that you’ve seen. You have to find the things that bring you joy and make you comfortable. Sometimes finding happiness means separating yourself from everything that you’ve known to find the things that better suite you.

Are you allowing your past and circumstances to be your excuse??

Love and blessings in divine order, Stacye

Song of the day  : “Be Yourself” - Debra Laws

CD if the day  : Very Special

Rose -Colored Glasses

Hard as we may try we each are guilty of wearing rose-colored glasses with someone in our life. There are signs, there are hint’s, and yet we allow the beauty of who we think someone is to cloud our judgment to who they really are.

It’s very easy for us to want what we want or want someone to be what we want them to be. This usually comes from something lacking in our own life and we look to this other person to fulfill this desire that we have. It’s usually in romantic relationships that we put our rose-colored glasses on the most. Because of our desire to have our storybook relationship or what we think is the right relationship we choose not to see someone for who they really are. We will turn a blind eye to something even though there are red flags popping up all around us.

The thing is that no matter what it is we want in our life we cannot just make someone be that. It would be wonderful if we could find that perfect person to fulfill our needs. And, yes the relationship we desire is possible, but many times we are far too inpatient to wait for what’s truly right for us. Instead we try to make the situation we’re in be the situation we want even when we know it’s the situation we don’t need. We will tell ourselves all kinds of lies to make our story sound like the greatest love story ever told when in actuality we know we are really preparing ourselves for our worst nightmare. Just hoping that we might be wrong. Hoping that if we love someone enough they will become what we want and hoping that if we believe in our dream enough that our dream and our fairytale can come true.

It’s always important to see people for who they really are, as well as what they are and are not capable of doing to and for us. When we can see people as they really are we are never disappointed and we are less likely to have our feelings hurt. We can never want a relationship so badly that we sacrifice ourselves trying to achieve it. Because the outcome of realizing that the toad is really just a toad and not a prince or princess waiting to be kissed is always far more painful and harder to get over than if we had just waited patiently for what was right for us. 

Are you seeing things clearly or wearing rose-colored  glasses? 

 Love and blessings in divine order, 

 Stacye

 Song of the day : Rose-Colored Glasses  - Kelly Rowland

For more inspirational messages be sure to check out my book “It’s All In How You Look At It(thoughts and questions about life) “ 

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The Little Voice

We each have a compass that guides us through life. It is that little voice, our gut , or instinct that leads us forward. If you listen carefully that voice always leads you in the right direction for you.  That voice will lead you on your perfect path, to your perfect destiny. We each have that something that is just for us and our own road to getting there. 

The thing about this voice is that we all have one, we just don’t all chose to listen. Our heart speaks and yet we will sometimes not listen because of our fear or impatience. There are other times that we don’t listen to that little voice because  we are trying to do what we think is the right thing or the thing that will lead to what we think is best for us. 

The truth is we don’t always know what is right for us or what will help us best to get where we want to go. We only think we do. Many times we get in our own way slowing and our progress because we are so busy trying to force a situations instead of allowing things to move as they should.

Always listen to that little voice. It Is there for you and you alone to help you navigate these sometimes difficult waters of life. You are never alone because God has got you, and if you listen closely you will always hear the words you need to hear and you will always be on your right road.  

Remember fear and faith cannot occupy the same space. Trust your gut. 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye 

www.StacyeBranche.com

Song of the day: “More of You” - Fred Hammond

Missed Opportunities

There are times when we don’t say the things we need to say especially in matters of the heart, because of pride, fear, or not wanting the other person to think we’re  weak.  The most common words we don’t say are  “I love you” and “I’m sorry”, but there are many other things that we let go unsaid. They are words that we don’t realize might be important for the other person or people in our lives to hear. They are the words that maybe need to be said for the positive growth of a relationship or the words a person needs to hear so they can let go and move on. 

The unfortunate thing about the words that we don’t say is that sometimes it’s too late to say them and nothing we say can change the situation. Either because too much time has passed  or we never get the opportunity to say them.  Either way it is something that can  haunt us forever. Fear and pride can be so much more damaging then we realize until it’s too late.

 As the saying goes “There is no time like the present”. So,  why not  seize the opportunity? Say  what needs to be said. It doesn’t matter if the other person feels the same way that you do or not. What matters is that they know how you feel, and at least from your end you never have to wonder  what if I had said this or that because you did. 

Are you missing opportunities???

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “ When Will I See You Smile Again?” - Bell Biv DeVoe

CD of the day: “Poison” – Bell Biv DeVoe

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It's All In How You Look At it

We all wake up and move through our days.  During that day someone will ask “How is your day going?”  Most of us unfortunately start with the complaints instead of the blessings. There are many answers we can give, but it is all in how you look at it.

You could say….

“I woke up late”, but did you get where you had to go and did you get there safely?

“My Boss laid into me”, but did someone else pay you a compliment?

“I had to work through lunch”, but did you get a meal today? 

“I had to work late”, but did you get a lot of work done, and did you make overtime?

We can see any situation as good or bad it’s all in how we choose to look at it.  It’s easy to recall all the things that you consider unpleasant in your life because you choose to make those things important, but what if you were to change the things that you focus on?  What if you focused on the positive instead of the negative? There would be such a difference in your life if instead of looking at the negative you tried focusing on the positive. You have to remember that just  because the day didn’t go the way you wanted it to, it doesn’t mean it didn’t go the way you needed it to. 

Instead of  starting with all of the things that went wrong when someone ask “How is your day is going?” why not start with all the things that went right? When you focus on the positive there is always more positive to focus on.  If you start with the positive, the negative wouldn’t seem worth mentioning at all. 

How was your day today? 

Love  and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day - Happier Than Morning Sun  - Stevie Wonder

CD of the day – Music Of My Mind

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Take The Bags Out To The Curb

We all have a past or baggage if you will,  but it is important to remember that the things that have happened in our past  are experiences for us to grow from and to make us stronger. They are not who we are or who we have to be. Nothing that has happened to any of  us was meant to hold us back or bring us down.  Too many times we allow our past experiences of all kinds to weigh us down so badly that we allow them to cloud our judgement, make bad decisions, and prevent us from moving forward.

So many times things don’t go as we would like them to, or when we are unable to live up to someones expectations of us we allow that to weight on us. We then dig into our “bags of the past” and pull out an excuse on why things are not going right for us or why we can’t do something in the present. We hold onto and collect this baggage like it  in someway it is going to protect us, when really  what it’s doing is blocking our blessings.  In most cases we are not allowing ourselves to live, we are not allowing ourselves to grow, and most importantly in many cases we are not allowing ourselves to love ourselves or others. 

Experiences are just that, experiences. You take what you need and you discard the rest. The good you hold onto, to get  you through the difficult times, and the unpleasant experiences you take the lesson and you move on.  You don’t allow any experience  to stop you from living in the present or in the future, but most of all you don’t allow your past to stop you from being your best you for you in the present.    

Are you taking your baggage out to the curb? 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye 

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Starting Over

The funny thing about a relationship that’s supposed to be over is how it seems to linger on. Everything in the worlds says to us it is time to move forward. It’s time to start the next chapter in our life and find a new player or players, but our hearts and emotions seem to have trouble moving forward. 

You know that you are always going to love the person you were with. You will always have memories and feeling. If you didn't than you never really loved them in the first place.  As my grandfather use to say “your mind is your photo album”,  that is part of growing older. Your mental album grows. So now it’s time to make new memories to put into that album. 

It’s those old memories that make you want to go back to where you know you no longer belong. What you have to remember is you’ve let go of someone, and you’re going to experience feelings of loss. There will be good days and bad days. It’s only natural. As those memories nag you, you have to remember that if things were that good you would still be with that person.

You should always be grateful for the the experience. You should never forget those things that made you smile , but even more importantly you should never forget the things that hurt you and made it necessary for you to go your own way. If you know what you need and want from a relationship, than you have to hold out for it, and never give up hope that what you desire for yourself is out there for you. You have to keep a positive attitude and plan for your future and a not let your past get in our way. 

Is it time to start over???

Love and blessings in divine order, 
Stacye

Song of the day: “Ain’t No Use” – Stevie Wonder
CD of the day: “Fulfillingness' First Finale” – Stevie Wonder

Walking The Road of Faith

Do you ever walk away from a situation and wish you had said something?  Wondering why you didn’t say what was in your heart or mind?  Wondering what you were so afraid of?  

We are all afraid of rejection.  It’s probably the most common fear we all share. The feeling of being wrong, not good enough, or maybe we were just too prideful. But, if for a moment  we stopped to think if we had just open our mouth how that moment might have changed our life, salvaged a relationship,  or got us a job? 

We all want good for ourselves, and usually the only thing stopping us is a fear of the unknown.  When we drive down a road that we have never been on we have faith that we are going to safely end up where we are suppose to be.   We should fearlessly walk through our lives the same way. We don’t always have to know the outcome, we only have to believe that we will be okay and end up exactly where we should be. 

Are you walking the road in faith???

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye 

Song of the day : “Faith”  - George Michael 

CD “Faith” 

Making Room For Happiness

Happiness seems sometimes eluding but the truth is that sometimes we have to make room for it. In life there are always going to be up’s and down’s and sometimes the down’s seem lingering, but that means it is time to clean the closet of our life. 

As we go through life we often realize how much stuff we are collecting. Not just material things but people, and emotions.  Now most of us are aware of the fact that we need to let go and clean our physical closets, homes garages, but very few of us ever think about or take the time clean our emotional closet.  And, in that search for happiness we don’t realize that we can’t seem to achieve happiness because we are allowing our past experiences, hurts and sometimes people to get in the way of our present and future happiness.  Sometimes just continuing to live our lives without taking a moment to acknowledge what we have been through so that we can move forward. 

Happiness can be found in the smallest and simplest things, but when your emotional closet is full or overrun with negative things and people how can you find appreciation for those good people and things? How can you find joy, or happiness in a closet full of clutter??

We all have so much going on, but it is important to make time even if it is only five minutes a day to check in with ourselves and let go of some of those unwanted and many times negative feelings that fill our emotional closet and get in the way of our happiness. 

Happiness isn’t hiding from you it is just waiting for some room so it can come in. 

Are you making room for the happiness you seek or are you holding on to the clutter that prevents happiness from coming into your life? 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Pride Aside

It’s a funny thing how we do or don’t do something because of our pride? Like not calling someone we care about because we want them to call first, and as both people put their pride in front of their hearts time passes, and it gets harder for anyone to say what needs to be said. 

I use to live with my pride held high, then one day I realized that pride has it’s place in your work, in your home, your family or children, but not when dealing with the heart.  We all come from different backgrounds, and have different issues, and sometimes we don’t necessarily speak the same language.  Which sometimes makes it difficult to say what needs to be said, and sometimes difficult to hear what is being said. 

So, I have learned to listen to my heart, and realize that sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war. It’s not always necessary to be right. I don’t want to look up one day to find that I miss someone that really meant something to me because I thought I had a point to prove.  When coming from a place of love so much more is always gained than pride can ever award you.   

What are you holding pride for??

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the Day: “Remember What I Told You To Forget”  - Tavares

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Clouded Judgement

There are many times when we allow our desires to out weigh our judgment.  We can feel and see that things are not right, but yet  we allow our desire to paint the picture prettier than it really is. The trick in life is to remember we can’t allow our desires to become obsessions especially in relationships. 

If you pay close attention I believe that a person tells you a lot about themselves  in the first 5 - 10 minutes with their words as well as their actions. The kind of things that make a difference as to whether or not you should  or should not continue on with a relationship. The problem is that most of us don’t pay attention. We get caught up in the fairytale of what we hope can be. We continue on the journey until one day the fairytale becomes a nightmare and we are shocked that things have gone so wrong. 

Many times we look back on a situation in shock, and with our feelings hurt when in actuality the red flags were waving in front of us the whole time.  If we were to tell the story of our journey and what we thought  we wanted so badly the red flags will stand out, and we will realize were there all the time . 

Love is not a myth, and having a great relationship is possible with the right person, but it is important to pay attention. If something doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t. You may have to kiss a few frogs to get to the prince or princess, but it is better to take your time getting to the fairytale, than to be trapped in a nightmare. 

Are you using your judgment or being guided by your desires??

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye 

From the book “It’s All In How You Look at It (thought and questions about life) 

Song of the day: “Don't Let Me Be Lonely Tonight”  - The Isley Brothers

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