What Are You To The One You Love

We all have qualities that we desire in our partners not just looks, but the qualities we need from them.  Like, maybe them being kind, considerate or generous towards us for example.  But,  as we ask for what we want and need from them, and what we want them to be to and for us, isn’t it just as important to think about what we want to be to them? 

What are you and what do you want to be to the person in your life? What brought this to mind was listening to people talk about what they want and need from their partner, and yet in the same conversation they never speak on what they want to be to the person in their life. I’ve noticed that sometimes we can be very selfish in our relationships only focusing on ourselves, and not concerning ourselves with someone else wants and needs. And, then we wonder why there are troubles in our relationship. 

As I thought about this, I had to ask myself the question.  What do I want to be to the person in my life, and what can I bring to their life? First, I desire to enhance their life and in some way make their life better. But, most of all I want to make them happy, and happy that they chose to spend this part of their journey with me. As much as we want things to be about us, we have to remember that a relationship is between two people who each have needs and wants, and neither person should ever forget that.

What are you to the special person in your life?

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

Song of the day: “Everything” - Jody Watley   

There is Hope

There are many times when things don’t go the way that we would hope. We as Americans are experiencing one of those times. There are many that feel anger, fear and hopeless, but this time is no different than any other challenging time. We will gather our strength and we will move forward. 

We will fight against injustice, racism, sexism, and homophobia. And, we will fight for those unable to fight for themselves. Because, it is what we have always done and what we will always do. It’s okay to be angry, but channel your anger into something positive. 

If you did not vote, if you are not in someway working to better the world that we live in then you are part of the problem. If you want change you can’t just talk about it, you have to be about it. Get involved in your community, get involved in your local government.  Be the change that you wish to see in the world. 

We are always stronger together when we are fighting for what is right. What is right is loving one another and lifting each other up. We have to work together to make the world better. No one man, nor surge of hate can destroy us, unless we allow them to.  Remember discrimination against one is discrimination against all. It’s time to work together for better. 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Change Is Gonna Come” - Sam Cook

It's About The Journey

It’s About The Journey

There are many times that we find ourselves disillusioned about our relationship. We seem to be looking for the unrealistic “Happy Ending.” But, the truth is it’s not about the “Happy Ending,” but the “Happy Journey.” The “Happy Journey” comes with communication, understanding, patience, and forgiveness. The road requires constant work and being mindful that you are dealing with another individual who has their own wants and needs, and like you they are always growing and changing. Hopefully the two of you will have similar wants and needs and be able to grow and change together.

Because happiness has a different meaning for everyone, it is important that you know who you are and what you want out of your relationship from the start. The best start for any relationship is to have similar interest, goals, and values. But, it’s important to remember that there are many variables, and you have to figure out the things that really matter to you, and the things that don’t. Although your upbringing plays a big part in your beliefs, it is really about what is in your heart and the heart of your partner that determines how you are going to live your life, and conduct your relationship.

In a perfect world our relationships would last forever, but unfortunately some relationships have a shorter life span than others. So, you have to live in the moment, appreciate where you are, and do your best where you are. Try not to worry about the where things are going, but focus on doing your best in the present. Because, the truth is it’s not about the ending, but the journey.

Are you making your journey a happy one?

Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye

Son of the day: “Good Love” - Anita Baker

The Realistic Happy Ending

What is a Realistic Happy Ending? It’s about being with the person that you can’t imagine your life without.

We have all heard the story of “Snow White and the Prince.” We all heard “that they lived happily ever after.” The thing is, no one has ever told us what “Happily Ever” after is. We all have our preconceived notions of what we think a relationship or marriage should be like. But, the thing is, you never really know what your relationship is going to be until you’re in it.

Many times people find fault with their own story because it’s not exactly like someone else’s or like what they have seen in the movies. When you try to compare your relationship to someone else’s, then you are being unrealistic.  No two relationships can ever be the same. All you can be is What is best for you, and spending you time trying to make your situation like someone else’s you are you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

Every relationship is unique and should be treated as such. There is no true right way or wrong way, just the way that you and your partner decide your relationship should be. It’s not about how someone tells you your life or relationship should be, but about the path you and your partner decide to walk down together. It’s more than possible to have a beautiful and loving relationship, but you have to start with knowing yourself, you doing your best to know your partner, and not trying to live you life the same way someone else has lived theirs. Instead, you have to create your own happy journey. 

Communication is the key, and with good communication you can write your own fairytale. 

Are you living your realistic happy ending?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Fairy Tales” - Anita Baker

Moving Past the Pain

When a relationship has ended it is very similar to a death, and in many ways it is. A person that you care about is no longer in your life. You have loss something and someone that are important you. Like any loss you will continue on with your life, and each day the pain will seem to hurt less and less, but in the immediate you hurt.

Through each of our lives we will experience the loss of a loved one either physically, emotionally or both. The hardest task for most is to figure out what to do next, and how to not hurt. The two main reasons that hold a persons back from healing are that they first– are trying to not feel love for the other person because they believe in the myth that if they are no longer together then they can no longer be friends, and the second–is that like anything else in life you have to find and give gratitude for the good things and the lessons that came from the relationship, as well as the loss of the relationship. 

There are many reasons a relationship can end. No one has to be right or wrong, but when you can look back on the relationship honestly it will make all the difference in the world on how you move past the hurt. Sometimes, it is hard to see through the pain that a relationship might not have been good for you, that it might have been holding you back from being your best self, or that it wasn’t the best thing for either of you. When you can look at the relationship as it really was, and not the fantasy you painted in your imagination, you’ll find the grieving period will be much shorter. Many times we are holding onto the fantasy of what we hoped would be, and we allow that fantasy to get in the way of our healing. 

There is no right or wrong amount of time to grieve a loss of any kind. The end of a relationship is in it’s own way a death, and the mistake that most of us make is that we don’t allow ourselves time to grieve. At the end of anything that is important to you, you have to allow yourself time to grieve and process your loss. But, unlike a death you cannot continue to only see the good in the relationship, and not acknowledge the things that were unpleasant in the relationship. Continuing to do that will prolong the pain and never allow you to move forward. 

Just as you are allowing yourself time to grieve you have to allow yourself time to adjust to the changes in your life, adjust to where you are in the present, and where you want to go in the future. 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of The day: “I Can’t Get Over You “ - Frankie Beverly &Maze 

Show Your Gratitude

Gratitude in any area of your life always brings more to be grateful for, but this is especially true in a romantic relationship. Whatever it is about your relationship that truly makes you feel good, you should wake up every day and express your gratitude for those things. Find the gratitude, express your gratitude, and everyday continue to appreciate what you have because you could not have it. 

If you are in a relationship that doesn’t allow you to feel grateful, then you have to figure out why you don’t feel grateful and do something about it. You have to remember that a relationship is an honor and privilege, not an obligation. No one should ever be anywhere where they are not happy. That doesn’t mean that you are going to be happy every minute of every day in any relationship. There will always be up’s and down’s in everything we do in life, but you should have more moments to be grateful for in your relationship, than you have moment that you are not grateful for.  

So, if you get everything—or at least most of what you need and want from your relationship—you need to not only be grateful, but you need to show your gratitude to your partner.

Are you showing your gratitude? 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of The day: “I Want To Thank You” - Alicia Myers 

Gratitude

We go into relationships for many different reasons, but the core reason is necessity. We have a necessity and a desire for companionship. The deeper necessity for the relationship could be physical, financial, or it could just simply be for the companionship. Whatever the reason, two human beings have invited one another to share their journey and to full-fill each others needs. So, if your relationships make you feel happy, safe, and they are fulfilling a need that may you have, then why wouldn’t you be grateful for them?

The thing that many people forget is that no one has to share their life with you, not your parents, your siblings, and not your friends. Every relationship we have is a blessing, and we should never forget that. This is not to say that any relationship is perfect. No, I would say quite the opposite. Relationships can be messy and complicated, but they are in most cases a choice that we have made.

You have to remember that no relationship an obligation to be in. It is an honor for someone to choose you to share their life journey with, and it is a privilege for you to be able to walk that journey with them and vice-versa.That is how we should look at our relationships – as a privilege. No one in a relationship ever owes the other anything. This is often something that many of us forget.

Gratitude is not something that many are not taught to have for our relationships, but it is one of the most important acts you can demonstrate towards the people you care about. When you demonstrate love and appreciation, you will always bring more to be grateful for from the people in your life. 

Do you have gratitude for the people in your life?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Gratitude” - Paul McCarthy

Feelings Will Be Hurt

I always find it funny how we don't want to say something to someone because we don't want to hurt their feelings–especially in relationships or the possibility of a relationship. Sometimes the truth can hurt, but it really is in how you say what is true, and in how the truth is received. 

It's like when I hear someone say "I didn’t know how to tell him or her that I wasn't interested, so I just didn't call” or "I didn’t say something because I didn't want to be mean" or worse “I am avoiding him or her because I don’t want to do whatever.” It would have been much kinder to have just been honest with that person in the first place, then to use the lie of avoidance. Like avoidance is going to hurt their feeling less. At the end of the day, yes, the other person got the message by our action or lack there of, but it doesn’t hurt their feelings any less. 

I think that avoidance can actually be more hurtful. Because, the other person involved doesn’t know what exactly has happened. Let’s be honest, when we avoid saying something or doing something we think that we are making it easier on the other person, but really what we are doing is just trying to make things easier for ourselves. The truth is, we’re not making anything easier. 

When we avoid any situation lies usually get thrown in the mix. In turn we make things more complicated then they need to be. When we’re upfront and honest we avoid confusion. At least being upfront and honest there is a chance to move forward peacefully–whatever forward may be without muddied watered. 

It's not always easy to tell the truth, and yes, sometimes feeling get hurt. The thing is whether you are honest up front or you choose avoidance feeling will be hurt, but at least in telling the truth feeling won't be hurt as bad. 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: "If Your Heart Isn't In It"  - Atlantic Star

Red-Flag Warnings

Every person whether they want to acknowledge it or not has had a “Red Flag Warning.” That moment when you are in conversation with another person, and they say or do something that doesn’t feel right. And, yet most of us will just over look this uncomfortable moment and will tuck it away in a bed full of excuses. The funny thing about the “Red Flag Warnings” especially in relationships is that when we come to the end of the relationship we always seem to remember the “Red Flags” that we saw early on and chose to ignore. 

Here’s the thing, people will always show you who they are, just as we show who we are. But, because of loneliness or plain old animal attraction, we overlook the things that don’t sit well with us. And, yet with horns blaring and flags waving we will continue walking into the danger zone. We will fool ourselves into believing that this thing that doesn’t sit well with us can be overlooked, or it is something that we can fix. It’s true that it takes time to get to know someone, but there are a lot of important things you can learn in a short time– if you just pay attention.

It’s always good to know what it is you need and want from any relationship as well as your intentions in the relationship. If you’re clear about who you are, what you need and want for yourself, then when you meet someone and the “Red-Flags” waves you know to precede with caution. But, if you’re not clear you about who you are, it is easy to fool yourself into believing that the situation is something you can work with or fix. 

As the old saying goes “you can’t judge a book by it’s cover,” and that is true, but if you can take 10 minutes you can open a book and skim the pages. If you look closely, pay attention, and trust your instincts you might see that there may not be a happy ending at the end of that particular story for you. Trust your instincts they can save you a lot of heartache and grief.

Do you trust your instincts?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

If Trust Is The Matter

There are people whether knowingly or unknowingly who allow their unpleasant relationships from the past to play a big part in their decision-making process of how they meet new people, establish relationships, and how they conduct themselves in relationships. They deny themselves true happiness and make others suffer because of the actions of someone from their past.

Many times people don’t look at both sides of a situation, or they move on from a relationship without finding forgiveness and healing their wounds. What they don’t realize is that they are beginning to build a wall that with every relationship attempt continues to grow. Without doing a little work on themselves, and attempting to heal the wounds from their past, the wall will not go away by itself. They wake up one day, and no matter how much they have going for themselves, they become the last person in the room that anyone wants to get to know.

There are two big mistakes that many people make in their relationships. The first is that they forget that it takes two to tango. You not only have to acknowledge your part in the success of a relationship but also in it’s failure. The second mistake people make is not acknowledging what they’ve gained from being in the relationship. You have to find the lesson and the blessings from the experience, to not only move past the experience but so that you can grow from the experience. Because, for you to have different and better, you have to show up different and better. 

If trust is an issue for you, and you find that you are seeing a displeasing pattern in your relationships, it might be time to take a long hard look at your behavior in your relationships. Instead of placing blame–take some responsibility. You need to figure out what is it in you that is attracting the same kind of person, or what is it that you might be doing that is bringing unpleasant qualities out in others. That means that you have to live in the present, heal some of your wounds of your past, and don’t allow the wall around you to get so high that you can’t see over it.

Do you have trust issues?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Love The Hurt Away” - Eric Benét

You Can't Fit A Circle In A Square Hole

I always say that you can learn a lot about a person in the first few minutes of meeting them. People tell you and show you more than you are every aware of if you just pay attention. Sure there may be jittery nerves, and a bit of caution, but if you are alert the truth can’t hide. 

Sometimes in our search for love and our desperate attempt to get away from loneliness we continue to try and find something that connects us with another person even when the red flags are waving at full staff. What you have to remember is that just because you are single and someone else is single it doesn’t mean that you are going to, or have to have a love match. If you are in a relationship that seems to already have a few too many differences you are probably never going to have any more in common than you already do. 

It’s important to know and love yourself, and to know that you cannot make someone be the right person for you, just like you shouldn’t have to change to be the right person for someone else. Sometimes the writing is in big bold letters on the wall, but we refuse to see them, and in turn we allow ourselves to be verbally and sometimes physically mistreated all in the name of desired love. 

The belief in love is important, but believing that there is a right person out there who fits you perfectly is more important. With the right relationship you never have to try to fit the circle in the square hole. 

Are you trying too hard?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “When I Dream” - Barbra Streisand

The First Five Minutes

Most of us meet people and after about a fifteen-minute conversation we quickly invite them into our lives. Be it for friendship or an intimate relationship, all because we were able to find a couple of things in common with them. There is that something about them that makes us want to know more. 

Sometimes somewhere down the line, we lose interest in this new relationship because there wasn’t enough in common, or we see a side of them that we hadn’t seen or chose not to see before. We see something that displeases us, and we begin saying things like “I never saw that quality in them”, or  “I would have never thought they would behave like that.”

Now, if you look back on when you first met this person, there were signs of who they were, or there was an off feeling that you had that you chose to ignore. You wanted to believe this person was who they appeared to be, and that they should be in your life. 

The truth is, when we first meet someone regardless of who they want us to think they are, they will always show bits of their true self. If we listen and watch carefully the truth is never as undercover as they think it is. The signs of who a person is can be heard in their words and seen in their actions, as well as seen in their wardrobe, home, office, and even their car without them even knowing it.  

We each are always in some way telling or showing the truth about ourselves whether we are trying to hide it or not. It’s all about paying attention in that first five minutes. So, remember you can never overlook the words and actions that don’t sit well with you. 

Are you paying attention to the first five minutes?

Love and blessings in divine order, 
Stacye

Evasive

There are times when it is not necessary to divulge information. Some things are on a need to know basis, but in an intimate relationship openness and honesty are crucial. If you meet and go into a relationship withholding information, this will not only always be the pattern, but it will at some point get in the way. You should never be with someone that you have to pretend with, or in any way can not be yourself. The people in your life should love and except you for who you are, just as you should love and except them for who they are.  No one should have to change to make someone else happy. 

We all have a past, those things that we may not want or need to talk about.  There is a time and a place for everything, and when and if the time comes you will know it, and handle whatever the situation accordingly. But, in the meantime it’s important to be as honest as possible in your interactions. Show up as your most authentic self, be clear in your words and actions. Moving forward you never want anything in the future to be perceived as dishonest. 

We all want companionships, andthere are times we might feel that we aren’t enough or maybe we have too much baggage for another person to deal with. The truth is the right person will always except you for exactly who you are. If you really value your relationships you should honor them with the truth. 

Is there something that you are hiding?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Don’t You Worry ‘Bout A Thing”  - Stevie Wonder

In The Face of Lies

Each of us knows someone or we ourselves are a person who fears the truth. The truth whether pretty or not, seems to be the hardest thing for many to express or accept. Because, we fear how the truth will be received, and the possible aftermath.

The truth, whether you consider it good or bad, in the long run is always best, and in time will always be revealed. Many times we fear the reaction to what might be considered an unpleasant truth, but the truth no matter how painful it may be is never as hurtful or as damaging as telling a lie. A person might be upset about an unpleasant truth in the short term, but they will always be more upset about the lie. Once a lie has been revealed as a lie, trust can be a hard thing to regain. Sometimes the evidence of a lie can create more havoc, than a painful truth ever could. 

You have to remember that no situation is ever bad, it’s just different than what we might have wanted, but more importantly it is an opportunity to learn and grow from. It is a situation that you will move past, and it’s always nicer to move into the future with grace, then to always have to worry about the past, and the truth catching up with you. 

Are you brave enough to face the truth or do you live waiting for the truth to catch up to you?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Time Will Reveal” - DeBarge

The Relationship Road of Deception

There is no handbook to teach us what is right or wrong in a relationship, but there is being honest with yourself about what you want and need, and being honest with the person you’re in a relationship with. 

Too many times we meet someone, and we stay on our best behavior. We go into the relationship continuing to stay on our best behavior afraid of letting the other person see who we really are. The thing is we are not only lying to the other person about who we are, but we are lying to ourself. We are not only denying ourself the opportunity to be happy, but worst we are denying the other person the opportunity of knowing how amazing we are. 

Never fool yourself into thinking that if you pretend to be someone you're not that it will make someone want you or love you more. Eventually the truth will alway reveals itself. You will never experience your true happiness or live your best life if you can not live in the world as your truth self. 

A relationship must have honesty, communication, and respect. If you cannot be honest with yourself about yourself, and honest with your partner about who you are, what you need, and what you want, then you will never be able to have a relationship that makes you happy. But, instead you will continue to be in search of a happy and loving relationship. 

Are you on the road of deception in your relationship or are you on the road of honesty? 

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Talk To Me” - Anita Baker

Sending In The Representative

The thing I always find funny is how when you meet someone you have to wonder who you just met. Did you really meet that person or did you meet their representative, and will the real them show up a couple of months down the line?

You wake-up one day, and say to yourself who is this person? Where did they come from, and what did they do with the person I though I was in a relationship with? The answer is simple “the Representative has left the build.”

Is it that a person doesn’t like themselves, or is it that they don't think they are good enough when they meet someone of interest, that they can’t be themselves? We want people to be honest with us, but yet many people don’t give that same honesty in return. The person never take into consideration that if they have to put on a show, and can’t be themselves, that maybe that person or the situation they are interested in isn’t right for them. 

People like to blame the honeymoon phase being over for when the relationship begins to take a negative turn. Saying things like “the honeymoon is over” or “we needed some space.” The reality is that when the representative leaves the building and usually whoever is left is not someone that you might not have had anything to do with in the first place, and vice versa. 

If you know and love who you are, then you know that the right person is out there for you. The right person will love you for all that you are, and not ask you to be someone different. You might be a little lonely waiting, but in the long run it will be worth the wait. 

Who have you sent to the party you or the representative?

Love and blessings in divine order,

Stacye

Song of the day: “ Who are You?”  - Loose Ends 

Abuse

Abuse comes in many forms. It can be verbal, mental, and physical. All are harmful and like drugs all can be hard to recover from. 

Abuse is an unfortunate behavior that starts with most in childhood. A person might receive abuse, or witness abuse from or with their parents.  In turn,  the abused will sometimes continue the cycle either with their partner, or with their children. It can start with yelling, insults, and then the hitting usually begins. 

As children we know that we don’t like being treated badly, so why do we grow up and continue the pattern?  There is an old saying “You get more with sugar than you do with salt” There could be no truer words, or even better “Do onto others as you would have done on to you.”

If only a person being abused were to realize that “No one” ever has the right to mistreat them, and that love doesn’t mean giving or taking abuse. Just because you saw abuse as a child doesn’t mean that’s how things are suppose to be. If things don’t feel right, then they aren’t, and you should never confuse any form of abuse for love. 

If an abuser were to stop and think about that misdirected negativity they are spewing out at others, and where it’s really coming from, maybe they could begin to stop the negative pattern, and start a new pattern of love. 

So, as you go about living your life, if you believe “you get what you give” wouldn’t it be nice if we each gave kindness, thoughtfulness, and consideration, and without doubt knew we would get the same in return? 

What is your pattern?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Falling In

I know more people unhappy with the relationship they’re in, than happy. So, it made me wonder why. I realize that part the problem was the lack of people knowing themselves, the fear of being alone, the lack of them knowing what was important to them for themselves, and in a relationship. Plain and simple there is a lack of true compatibility. 

It’s easy to fall into a relationship without knowing why you're there. You go on one, two, three or four dates, and before you know it you're in relationship. Then you start to notice that you aren't feeling those feelings you've heard about, those feelings that people in love are suppose to feel. You’re not sure if you ever had those feelings, and you start to think well, this is all there is. This is all that a relationship must be–two people together, and being with someone is better then being with no one at all. You start to think that those bells and whistles, rockets and butterflies you’ve heard about, must only be in the movies. 

I realized that most of the unhappiness that people experience in life and in relationship comes from them not being honest with themselves about who they are, and what is important to them. Most people aren’t taught to think about these things before they enter into a relationship. Most people are taught to look for the more superficial things that in turn usually leave them leaving unfulfilled. But, if they were to take a moment to think about whatwas important to them in a relationship, mentally, spiritually and physically they could find the relationship that makes them feel all of the things that they hope to feel.

For some, the situation they’re in may not be easy to fix or end, but for those who are looking, maybe if they were to stop and figure these things out before the enter a relationship or before things go to far in a new relationship there would be a few more happy relationships. 

Do you know what you have fallen into?

Love and Blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of The Day: "When I Find You Love" - Jean Carne

Knowing When To Let Go

We all have people in our lives that are in someway hurting themselves.  Wetalk and talk, yet our words fall on deaf ears. The thing that we have to remember is that we each have our own journey we must travel, our own emotions that we are experiencing, our own pain that we must handle, and we each handle our lives and what comes with them differently. 

It’s not always possible to know the demons that haunt a persons mind, or the demons that push someone to self-destructive behavior such as the over indulgence in drugs and alcohol or other kinds physical self-destruction.  As a caring and loving friend or family member it is our desire to help that person get the help they need and to heal, but sometimes no matter what we do it isn’t possible to help them. Unfortunately, their self-destruction can begin to become a destructive force in the lives of everyone around them. 

 As much as you can love and care for another person there comes a point when you must realize that it is time to let them walk their walk in the way they choose to walk it, even if it is a walk you don’t agree with or understand. Sometimes our help or what we think is help, does more harm than good. The person that is being self-destructive knowing they will always have that safely blanket may do little to help themselves, because they know someone will be there to catch them, and for some that are self-destructive they have to lose everything to want to get better. 

If you have reached the point that it is time to walk way the best thing you can do for yourself is to give yourselves permission to let go. You should never feel guilty for walking away when someone else’s self–destructivebehavior becomes a destructive force in your own life.  The walk–away is not cruel it is self-preservation. It can also be the motivation they need to make the changes that they need to make. 

Do you know when and howto let go?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Can You Stand The Rain?

I think that it’s the lows that allow us to see not only who we are, but who the people are in our life. Unfortunately, with those lows can sometime come separation, and a lot of pain.

In every life there is a moment when our strength and character, and that of those around us is tested. We see our life in an uncomfortable place. We are faced with something that we can’t run away from, but other people can. That journey to pick yourself up can be the loneliest journey you will ever take.  The people in your life who you look to, to help you pull yourself up and get back on your feet seem to be nowhere to be found. They are not scarce because they don’t care about you, but because they may not be emotionally equipped to handle the lows. The unfortunate thing for people that can’t be there for you when you need them is that they don’t realize that one day without fail they too will be in a similar place, and will want that same help and care that they were not willing or did not know how to give. 

I recently experienced a low in may life. It was a place I never expected to be, but one I have no doubt I needed to experience. The help I needed may not have come from where I would have hoped or expected, but it came just as it should from exactly who it should. Of course, there were reactions that might have disappointed me, but I chose not to be angry, and to understand that people can only handle what they can handle. I accept people for who they are, and I won’t allow someone else’s fears to make me fearful and unloving. From that low I received a gift I couldn’t have imagined–I was able to see just how strong I was.   

It’s obvious during the low times that once you are back riding high you will never forget the hurt caused by those that disappointed you, but time heals all wounds. You have to remember that people can only give you what they are capable giving. Never allow fear and disappointment to harden you. Find forgiveness and understanding, because we have not all been taught how to love and give the same way. It doesn’t matter what other people do or don’t do for you, you will always have the strength and the help you need to come up out of the valley and experience the highs again.

Can You Stand The Rain?

Love and blessings in divine order, 

Stacye

Song of the day: “Can You Stand The Rain” – New Edition

From the book “It’s All In How You Look at It (thought and questions about love and relationships)”